Soham - A Parents Tale

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Are you watching?

I knew that scumbag caretaker did it when I saw him being interviewed.

Had to stop watching going to hug my children

Got it on +1 now.

I agree that the medium shouldn't have been given exposure, he just told them what he would tell any bereaved parents - just a lot a platitudes and nonsense ....but if it brings them some solace then let them listen to it.

So scary to think that sickos can look completely normal, makes you want to lock your kids away but you just can't

That's one of the things that sticks in my mind about that time. DD thought Huntley seemed OK, she thought he looked OK, she was rocked to the core to discover that murderers etc do NOT walk round with a monobrow and a dodgy raincoat, they look like every other person in the street.

In the main the programme gave a good insight into the family's lives which may have helped not only they but others watching. Medium is full of crap but provides the family comfort. I am gkad they are getting in and I understand the Fathers last statement regards the mist of grief. The effectsof loss does come and go that way and one can never fully escape.

Could we focus on the fact that these parents are truly awe inspiring in their dignity and attitude to life. They have clearly done a wonderful job of raising their family and in their own words, haven't allowed any more of their life to be taken away from them.

For all we know, Holly's mum might be a MNer; I'd rather she knew what a lovely mum and aunt she is than think she might be reading some of this macabre 'i knew he did it' stuff.

I think the family are so lovely. They're still so fortunate to have each other their attitude is inspiring.

I was pregnant with dd1 when this happened, horrific, I remember sitting with the news on hoping to god they found them.

My own dd1 has the same name as one of the children ( not because of that) and is the same age as when they went missing. It doesn't bear thinking about. :(

sgb some of us may have actually lost children.

Now, if i hadnt tried to be all tactful id have just said what sgb said.

This programme has helped me feel a little less alone.

SGB? Bloody hell, the programme was released to mark the 10 year anniversary of Holly and Jessica's death and to show how the families have coped in the years since - I'm not sure I would have been so dignified in such circumstances and I applaud Holly's parents in their ability to share their devastating experience with the world and make something positive of it.

I think the programme has probably been very helpful to those who are grieving and particular in similar circumstances. You ask yourself, will I ever feel normal, will life ever have a purpose, will I every truly laugh again. This lovely family have allowed the cameras into their lives to show what does and can happen after their lives have been torn apart. I commend them for doing it.

Sole love to you.

I think from the parents point of view the program was a chance to show they survived and that they hadn't been beaten by Huntley and also a chance to raise awareness of the charity.

SGB so any documentary like this is, what did you call it, a grief wank? How utterly disrespectful you are, it's programmes like this which show us the dark side if humanity but also the strength of people to endure and overcome.

God forbid anything like this ever happens to you or yours, I haven't had a 'grief wank', I have been reminded how easy it is to lose the most precious thing in my life and hold her dear and protect her as much as I can, knowing how much evil there is out there helps us to remember to keep our guess up as parents and not become complacent and too trusting.

*keep our guards up

Makes me want to pull my DCs even closer, hug them and never let go my eldest dd especially.

And then I read another thread about leaving a five year old to sleep alone in a tent outside

I wonder if SGB would have the same opinion if the programme was about a woman that had been raped or in domestic violence. I guess SGB only ever get angry online not in reality. People like me have to suffer their vile remarks. I wish there was a hide user button.

The brother of the murderer has released a book to mark 10 years I presumed Holly's parents wanted to put their side as is their right and I think for them to have some control over the media the story attracts.

Solesource - people like you? What do you mean?

You may not agree with sgb, but others will. I do, and im fool enough to have watched a chunk of the proramme.

I felt it was pointlessly mawkish, pandering to the easily entertained and had no real substance. You are free to disagree with this but i would not call you 'vile' for having enjoyed the show.

It myst be dark up there Foose.

I feel sadness,and can't imagine the parental loss
I won't watch this programme.too upsetting
and you know what 10,20,40 years the pain wouldn't lessen for the parents

I dont think anyone enjoyed the show.

I remember admiring both sets of parents, for their composure and dignity when this tragedy was unfolding in the press 10 years ago. My DD and her friends were only 8 at the time and I couldn't imagine what they were going through.

I hope they have taken comfort in making this programme and that the charity helps many other families suffering enormous grief. I pray I don't experience such grief.