OBEM - is it on? Can anyone be bothered?

[StarlightDicKenzie]

So, is it still on?

Sparkling I gave up on BFGW on Tuesday too, about halfway through. Zzzzzz

I think OBEM is only keeping my attention (just!) because im 34wks PG. If I wasnt i'd have given up long ago.

Ah I see Soup I thought you meant because of no pain relief.

It's strange that 'must see' series turn into 'not this crap again' so quickly isn't it codfish?

Oh no, it's just that I'd never seen a birth from the Business end - and, TBH, I'm glad I didn't until I was all done with having children!!

No idea how people manage it without even gas and air - focussing on that was the only thing that got me through :)

trickster sorry for slagging off your friend she does seem lovely but i think she would be too 'saccharine' for me. I love 'lovely' people but those who are just too bouncy tend to get on my nerves, especially at such an emotive time.

I take it back about her never having kids though, i now see that she has had a child.

Just want to do a shout out for my midwife, Wendy at Wythenshawe Hospital - she was the best, most amazing midwife i have ever met, and I would stalk her for her friendship if i ever met her again! she was soooo calming with me and DH, i had a CS in the end and she was changing shifts so never got to see me give birth, but she came onto the ward the next day as she couldnt wait to meet DS

I am a similar(ish) personality to the midwife who was a bit um.. fluffy.
And I have learnt especially having moved further up north that speaking in a soft voice can annoy people and make them think that you're just a little girl.

So I've had to make a concious effort to be a bit more bold with my speech and more grounded.

I think it stems from an ideology I latched on to as a kid, a sort of, 'well why can't we all just be nice and kind, never say a bad word about anyone', completely against the grain of most working environments.

I to be honest have had the stuffing kicked out of me (not literally) to the point where now I am a lot more guarded, able to express darkness as well as light and not walk round smiling at all and sundry because it does annoy some people.

Someone once told me that if you give out too much light it can shine on peoples darkness and make them despise you through jealousy. Though it sounds boakingly hippyish, it did help me make sense of how I was causing a negative response even though I was only wishing for everyone to be happy.

So now I moan and stuff- at first it was to fit in, but now I am more "real" but maybe not quite as happy.

So though she did come across as glaringly different and I must admit really weird, I can relate to her I just hope she comes out unscathed because bullies exist every where and people like her are easy targets.

the thing with the midwife was that she spoke like a 9 year old girl, she appeared immature to the point of being unprofessional. i expected her to get her toy dollies out and play mummies and daddies. i agree that there are MWs at the other end of the scale, one of the post natal MWs on my ward was a right dragon! in that situation you need someone calming.

i am if you have been bullied for just trying to be nice, that is not on. and i also hope that she is not bullied for it, but really - she was just too much in a ward full of hormonal women!

The midwife came accross as utterly lovely but she would have got right on my tits if she had been there for either of my traumatic births.. There is a time and a place for being fluffy.

One of tonight's mums is the d-i-l of a friend so I will be watching :-)

tonights? it was on last night

Just picking up on Saggy's point that there are so many birth scenarios that could have been shown so why do they keep showing the same kinds of birth?

I gues channel 4 can only work with the footage they got. The series was filmed over 7 weeks so they had to get consent from as many couples as possible in that 7 week window. If we see 40 births over the course of the series...whose to know that they didn't only get permission to film 45 or 50; therefore not a big pool to choose from. Even if they got consent to film a lot of births, some will not have been suitable for broadcast for any number of reasons.

I can't imagine that there are that many people willing to filmed in such intimate circumstances. I wonder how many regular viewers would consent? I know I wouldn't.

did anyone else hear Mel's mum say " i need to leave the big brother house" or something along those lines.

I guess she didn't like all of the cameras being in the room

yes i got that, i think i recall her saying 'i need to leave' and then i think it was Mel who finished the sentence with 'the big brother house' but i could have got that wrong.

Adored, adored, adored chirpy midwife. I'm sorry, I thought she seemed utterly lovely, kind, professional, fantastic at explaining things, calm and I'd have loved a hug from her in labour!

I had an old-school, firm-but-fair midwife, which was also good, but oh Chirpy melted my heart! If she reads this then I want to say, keep doing what you are doing, you are brilliant! And no, no relation...