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dont all tell me off

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 21:48

my son has just found a girlfriend. only msn etc at the moment but i am so worried about him. hes my baby (16) and i not handling it very well. i have told him not to get to involved but dont know what else to say. would rather he waited till he much older.

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Remotew · 29/07/2008 21:50

It's not too young imo, just the right age for his fist girlfriend. Sorry but it is natural.

Remotew · 29/07/2008 21:50

Sorry of course I meant first, not fist omg!

zippitippitoes · 29/07/2008 21:50

what much older for a gf

yes you heard it

AnyName · 29/07/2008 21:51

Sorry he's 16. Not telling you off but telling you gently that he is actually old enough to have sex and even marry (with consent which any parent it right mind would not give!)so he really IS old enough to have a girlfriend.

Don't tell him not to get involved. Tell him you've re thought that reaction.. Tell him to take it easy, and enjoy. Be supportive.

giddykipper · 29/07/2008 21:51

I completely understand why you're emotional about it but 16 really isn't that young.

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 21:57

omg, sory, he 15, my typings awaful

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lilolilmanchester · 29/07/2008 21:59

He's not too young, as well you know, but understand how you feel. You don't stop wanting to protect them just because they are 16, and the thought of sharing them with another girl/woman is not easy to get your head around (she says, not having been through it yet but knowing it's just round the corner). Just remember what the heady days of young love are like - and don't make him choose! Rant away on here all you like tho. And come back and remind me what I said when I'm posting similar!

lilolilmanchester · 29/07/2008 21:59

or 15 for that matter!

SlartyBartFast · 29/07/2008 22:02

mention condoms [groin]

std's, unwanted pregnancies,
sorry, not helping am i

singyswife · 29/07/2008 22:02

You must make sure that he can talk to you about any relationship he has. Tell him that you were shocked at first but as long as he is careful it is cool (I know it isnt but you cannot let him know that), then come on here armed with tissues and wine.

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 22:02

thats it i suppose. i dont want to share him. i was much older beofre i had a bf. i really dont think anyone will ever be good enough. anyway, he has eduction to think of.

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DisenchantedPlusBump · 29/07/2008 22:04

I think you are lucky he has got to 16 without having a girlfriend.

Me and my DH got together at 15 Be NICE, you could be the MIL!

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 22:04

omg. he wont have sex yet will he......the trollop

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zippitippitoes · 29/07/2008 22:05

well tbh he is quite old

DisenchantedPlusBump · 29/07/2008 22:06

is this a wind up?

Who is a trollop? Your son?

PinkPurple · 29/07/2008 22:06

LoL at Slarty
"mention condoms [groin]"

BabieWabbit · 29/07/2008 22:07

Sorry, He's 16. There isn't much you can do. And as you said it's only an msn thing at the moment so maybe it won't go much further than that?
I know how he feels as i'm 16 too and the best thing you can do in my opinion is wait it out

AbbeyA · 29/07/2008 22:07

He is about the right age, I would have thought.

hughjarssss · 29/07/2008 22:10

To be honest and frank, 16 isn't that young at all to be having a girlfriend.
When I was at school boys by year 9 most people had boyfriends/girlfriends.

You can't stop him, homones will take over and if you try to it might end up causing trouble between you and him and that could have big consequences on his education.

If it were my son I would say I was proud he felt able to speak to me, that I understood he wanted to spend time talking and being with his girlfriend but that he must not forget the importance of his education.

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 22:18

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

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Original poster
changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 22:18

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 22:18

he is 15 and she is a trollop. this is not a windup

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Kewcumber · 29/07/2008 22:19

I had a boyfriend at 15 - went on to do A levels, degree and professional qualification. Sorry to break the news but...

^ He isn't your baby anymore^...

zippitippitoes · 29/07/2008 22:20

well good luck to him

he can have fun or learn something

lilolilmanchester · 29/07/2008 22:20