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dont all tell me off

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changemenameforthis · 29/07/2008 21:48

my son has just found a girlfriend. only msn etc at the moment but i am so worried about him. hes my baby (16) and i not handling it very well. i have told him not to get to involved but dont know what else to say. would rather he waited till he much older.

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theSuburbanDryad · 29/07/2008 22:21

Is she 15 too?

AbbeyA · 29/07/2008 22:28

I think you will end up being one of the MILs people complain about!
I'm not sure if this a wind up , but if not- get to know her.

Hulababy · 29/07/2008 22:32

16y definitely not too young. DH and I met aged 16y whilst still at school. Some 18 years later we are still together and about to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary!

Hulababy · 29/07/2008 22:35

Oh, and it didn;t poil our education. e met at start of A-levels, finished A-levels both went to (different) universities whilst still together, both got good degrees and both found good jobs. Never held either of us back at all.

ButterflyMcQueen · 29/07/2008 22:38

lovely hula - i love those relationships

lilolilmanchester · 29/07/2008 22:39

from MSN relationship to sex and marriage in a few posts. Not sure we're helping the OP feel better about this!!!

Kewcumber · 29/07/2008 22:49

and if she gets pregnan then you will have a proper little baby to look after... evil

lilolilmanchester · 29/07/2008 22:56

KEWCUMBER

CuckooClockWiseGuy · 29/07/2008 22:58

What is an msn relationship?? like instant messaging? They may take one look at eachother in real life and think, I think I left the kettle on.

hughjarssss · 29/07/2008 22:59

Kew sounds suspiciously like my MIL

Kewcumber · 29/07/2008 23:00
AbbeyA · 30/07/2008 07:30

I love it when they get to the girlfriend stage-it is such a relief after living in an all male household for so many years! Girls are so much better at communicating.

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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 09:48

thanks so much for all your help. i am so glad when i was feeling really low about all this i could come on here and get the piss taken out of me. i have no one else to talk to and just wanted a chat "mum to mums". are there no morals anymore, should i suggest my 12 year get shagging now, i give up. lilolilmanchester thankyou for being sympathetic.

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theSuburbanDryad · 30/07/2008 09:49

changename - how old is the girl, do you know?

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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 09:54
  1. i dont think it is right to be even thinking of having sex at this age. whatever happened to childhood. i dont think anyone should only have one partner, would hate him to marry someone he met at 15 and only ever knew her. how boring. but think 18 would be a better age to even beging the sex thing. just my thoughts, im not a prude, just have my own way of thinking.and anyway, it is illegal
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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 09:54
  1. i dont think it is right to be even thinking of having sex at this age. whatever happened to childhood. i dont think anyone should only have one partner, would hate him to marry someone he met at 15 and only ever knew her. how boring. but think 18 would be a better age to even beging the sex thing. just my thoughts, im not a prude, just have my own way of thinking.and anyway, it is illegal
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SlartyBartFast · 30/07/2008 10:03

but you called him your baby and he is 16. or 15 it turns out

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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 10:05

typing error. and yes, i gave birth to him and he and my others will always be my babies. wy is that so wronge.

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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 10:05

typing error. and yes, i gave birth to him and he and my others will always be my babies. wy is that so wronge.

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SlartyBartFast · 30/07/2008 10:07

i spose i might feel same way.. you did say don't tell me off though.
wouldnt you worry if he had no girlfriend, tbh, when all his peers do?

theSuburbanDryad · 30/07/2008 10:09

It's not illegal if they're both 15. If he was 16 and she was 15 then it would be (i think).

IMO you need to keep the lines of communication open. Have a chat about contraception etc with him, make sure he knows he can talk to you. I do think you may need to chill a bit - it's not unusual for 15/16 year olds (and younger) to be having consensual sex, so whatever your opinion on that is, the fact remains that if he wants to be having sex he'll be having it whether you approve or not! Sorry - probably not what you want to hear.

(I am feeling a bit about this whole thread though - think it may be to do with you calling a 15yo girl a trollop!)

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changemenameforthis · 30/07/2008 10:09

yeah thanks for that. brill advice. I AM NOT A TROLL.but dont really matter does it as you have all seemed to make up your mind. i have no intention of "fucking up his life", if i had i would have said all this to him. i will not be a crap mil, but i do no if i end up as one one day and i have a problem, i wont come on here for any help.i will just have to deal with my feelings alone. i wont bother you all again, and hope your relatonships with your own children stay as fab and well balanced as they all obviously are.

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