dont all tell me off

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my son has just found a girlfriend. only msn etc at the moment but i am so worried about him. hes my baby (16) and i not handling it very well. i have told him not to get to involved but dont know what else to say. would rather he waited till he much older.

changedname - has he been out with her yet? If he has or is going to, invite her round. You will probably feel much better once you have met her. Don't spoil your good relationship with your ds. This is a new phase he is entering. I think you have just had a shock because you didn't imagine him having a girlfriend yet - you will get used to it.

he knows her in person. thanks for all the advice. i have had a few days to calm down now and i think i was being jellous and over protective. i will talk if he wants and shut up the rest of the time. will see waht happens and if he mentions her will tell him to bring her round. thanks again.

Glad you have calmed down. Well done. I'm sure everything will be ok in the end especially if you meet her. There is an interesting article in the Guardian today about a much older sister of teen sister which strikes a chord for us mothers with actual teenagers, and the way younger people think they will react differently when they are faced with teenage behaviour. Haven't ever attempted a link before so hope this works.
www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/aug/02/amy.hanson.big.sistersis