DD does not want to come on another caravan holiday next summer

[Charlotte350]

Have been discussing family holidays over dinner today and my DD going on 15 said "if it's another caravan holiday to Mabel thorpe I'm not coming" she stated how much she hates it and I said well in that case you will have to stay with grandparents...she then said "I would be happy staying at home and just have a few friends over and I said no and tbh she was really rude and back chatting me while I said calmly what my reasons were. I think she should come on the holiday, however I don't want her spoiling it with moodiness if she doesn't want to be there so I will be asking grandparents to have her it would only be for the week. I'm not leaving a 15 year old home alone for a week. Has anyone else left a teenager with a relative/ grandparents while on holiday when they don't want to go?

I know what it’s like to be a teenager. I never went on a holiday post 12yo & I so envied those that did. If my kids grow up to say how awful I was to take them to all these places I’d have failed. I would have raised ungrateful spoilt adults. I don’t know any adult to this day that went on several holidays ever say how they wished they hadn’t & would probably agree with my sentiment of not knowing they were born at that age. My gosh I would complain about washing the dishes, cleaning my room, visiting family, going food shopping, walking the dog & being made to do homework all the things I resent doing today but not once have I begrudged my parents for making me do them.

Alright carry on sleepwalking if you will ✌️

Can't you go somewhere else? Even Skegness is better for teens as there is fantasy island etc. let her take a friend and get them wrist bands. Mablethorpe is the definition of boring and I'm 42!

People commenting on me making my kids come on holiday. I don’t have the luxury of babysitters. I’m not leaving my 15yo boy alone for a week & im not letting him dictate if I go on holiday. I do vary where we go but he would prefer to stay at home. Why? Mainly to play video games which he play to much of & it there waiting when he’s back. If this is good enough for you to either leave your child or not go away then kudos to you. Thats not how I parent.

Why are you not choosing a holiday to suit everyone not just the younger ones?

I’d compromise and go somewhere else. Can highly recommend N Wales. Buy a SUP if you can afford it and stay near Abersoch. Llanbedrog beach is safe for little ones and for SUP gf or the older ones. A few body boarding beaches around as well.

I’d look at getting a decent sized tent and letting her take a friend if you have space in the car

My parents owned an ancient static in manlethorpe when I was a teen. I loathed that fecking caravan and refused to go - they’d go every other weekend. I was so difficult about it that they left me at home in the end. They’d ring me from the camp telephone box at 11 every night to make sure I was in. I played the long game and lulled them into a false sense of security by being as good as gold … at first. My weekends got increasingly wild. Those were the days!

Can she invite a friend?

The replies on this thread are batshit. some people can’t afford multiple teen-approved holidays every year. So we do what we can afford.

If she doesn’t want to come on holiday - fine. But she’ll be too young to stay home alone so she can stay with grandparents.

@JemimaTiggywinkles Who said multiple holidays a year? Just one might make DD happier. Not every teen wants family “fun” on a uk beach in May with younger half siblings. Surely something can be built around the holiday needs of the older child?

No one said there had to be multiple teen approved holidays every year. Just suggested that maybe the DD’s preferences deserve to be taken into account. If she won’t go on any holiday, fine, stay with grandparents. But if it’s just the case that she’d rather go somewhere with a bit more to do than a beach that should be possible even taking into account the little ones and the budget.

As someone also in the same position as your daughter. My needs just weren’t even a factor. I never went on holiday with my family again.

Obviously it depends if youd wanted to continue this as adults but I’m still quietly envious of those that have the relationship with their parents to want to still go as adults.

Is that the may half term, before mock or actual GCSE exams? She may be stressing about being away from friends etc at a pivotal time in her school year. I’d speak to the GPs and see if they will stay with her or let her stay with them.

Just googled and pretended to be the op giving the details that’s told us. Basically for the week at half term at a campsite in Mablethorpe it’s about £400. Reckon for £400 something could be found to suit all members of the family.

Yes I have far too much time on my hands on a Saturday evening

Oh wow this sounds awful, I am not surprised she is refusing to go it sounds like my worst nightmare.
Surely you could go somewhere else or travel internationally for a change if you are able to?

The OP said they’re going a log cabin in August. Some teens honestly don’t know they’re born. A holiday (anywhere, any time) is a luxury many children don’t get to experience. “this holiday isn’t good enough” gets short shrift from me. But I suppose I’ve got little tolerance for brattish behaviour.

Wtf? Grandparents move in! Why should the grandparents be put out for a moody, unappreciative teen?

We were prepared to compromise on holidays when the DCs were teens, they didn’t want beach holidays, they preferred city breaks or shorter stays in cottages, both of which were possible on a fairly tight budget by using air bnbs etc. They still come with us as young adults.

£400 for a family of 6 in school holidays?! On astounded they’ve found anything tbh

100% Team DD.

A week in a caravan in Mablethorpe sounds utterly ghastly for anyone, and torture for a teenager.

or little tolerance for the fact that teens are growing up and deserve to have their opinions listened to.

I don’t think many 15 year olds would want to go on a family caravan holiday with younger children tbh

I’m afraid I also got to the same place when I was the same age. Parents didn’t realise we’d outgrown being crammed in together with zero privacy and were no longer enjoying sleeping in the same tiny beds that were okay when we were 8!

Opinions about what she wants to do, yes (within reason). So if she doesn’t want to go I wouldn’t force her. But she’ll doesn’t get to stop everyone else going.

It might not be a 5* All inclusive resort in some fair flung place. But something closer to home might be doable. Especially as there is a 2 year old who go free to a lot of places. Then there is bound to be somewhere. Especially if DD can be convinced that a change of location will make all the difference and be persuaded that it’s a caravan holiday still