My 12 yr old son lies and lies and lies…..

[glitterdust]

My ds who has 2 older sisters lies about everything, constantly, pointlessly. He lies about what he has eaten if I’m not there. Yesterday, I was at work, and asked him to do some exercise. He assured me he had, took a screenshot of his workout, for which I praised him, and he texted me back to say how proud he was. But it turned out to be a screenshot of a workout I had done a few weeks ago, and he had sat on the PlayStation instead. Due to previous lies, we’ve removed his phone, removed all screen time. Nothing seems to make a difference. He tells me an anecdote, which is always embellished with so many lies, I find conversation with him almost impossible. My husband is furious with him, constantly, about it all, and his sisters don’t like him. I try my best to show him love but its really hard

@glitterdust Please read up on ADHD in children and teenagers. It’s called the fib response.

www.additudemag.com/why-lie-adhd-fight-flight-freeze/

I think there’s been something lost in translation- I’ve never had adequate literacy. I do ‘workouts’ on my beloved peloton in the garage. Sometimes ds has a cycle on it if he wants. I just asked him to do some exercise in his day - as it’s off screen time and it means he’s out of bed and pyjamas. Could cycle to the shop for a treats drink and it would be fine. Him taking a screenshot of a class I had done, then taking the praise for having done it, was an obviously poor example, of another completely unnecessary lie. We just are desperately seeking ways to help him avoid this continuing into adulthood.