So we have what I think is a pretty typical teenage boy. 15 and a half. Gets himself up and goes to school every day. Plays lots of sports. Struggles with school due to dyslexia and ADHD. So reports tend to be bad with some good subjects. Doesn’t really knuckle down and study.
Has a good group of friends. Doesn’t go out that often. Went out last night. Had a few beers.
According to DH (and he moans at me about this every bloody day). He is lazy, he doesn’t do anything, he’s been in bed all day with a hangover, he doesn’t want to spend time with us (go figure he’s a teenage boy).
He hasn’t been in bed all day - he’s been chilling in his room. He’s actually just gone out for a run.
Yes I’d love him to spend time with us and I miss how it was a few years ago but this is part of the process.
DH will not accept that. Every day he says ‘where did we go wrong, he’s so awful’ bringing the mood down in the house and pissing me off.
My tactic throughout these years are - this will pass. He’s not that bad! I go out and see my own friends and choose my battles.
DH says I have a very low bar. I can’t stand him walking around like a bear with a sore head. He’s my problem not DS. I have spoken over and over again saying this is normal and he could be far worse! He won’t have it. I actually wish he wasn’t here. I think I’d bumble along just fine with my 2 DS. How do I tackle this?