Teen accused of being a paedophile advice needed!

[Stuckinarut23]

I've been sent messages from his ex gf of screen shots of my son messaging a 14/15 year old girl, apparently they were messaging on snap chat he wrote some sexual stuff and chatting her up
He said he didn't know she was 15 at first
They haven't met or had sex. I am devastated. I dorn think he realises the consequences of hia actions, screen shots have been posted on FB on groups and what do I do?

The thing is he isn't the brightest person 😢. I think she does exist but his ex is the one spreading it. I've tried to report it.

Although new posts suggest that he had been set up with a fake profile???

OP
Go to a lawyer.
Also most people have common sense and understand that 15 & 18 is not the same as 8 & 32

Sounds like the ex gf is being malicious. I went out with a 21 year old when I was 16. I was quite grown up at the time though ( moved out of home six months later).
As long as he hasn't knowingly encouraged a minor to send explicit photos or had any sexual contact then he's not done anything wrong.

Report it all to the groups, but don't engage and tell him not to either.

yeah but you'd just be protecting your posterior - I doubt you'd be seriously concerned.

I'm guessing you don't have a son.

You need legal advice. Mumsnet posters can't help you. It's going to turn into a big thread full of drama and hysterics soon, none of which will be helpful to you you.

Report all the Facebook posts and don’t engage. Ask him to deactivate his profiles for a while, even his Snapchat. If he is really refusing then I’d be changing profile picture to something else (not his face), changing his name and making sure his profile is private- check settings to make sure he hasn’t shared too much info in there about his home town, studies, work etc.
It will all die down soon and I do think the ex is doing it to be malicious but I’d question how she got these messages. Either he’s been set up, the 15 year old is messing with his ex or he has taken screenshots and sent them onto someone else.

This.
This isn’t the definition of paedophile.

I'd rather she just reported it to the police. I have no way of checking only a few screenshots but not full context. And I am struggling to know what to believe. These messages normally delete after 24 Hours

I think almost all people will think it is just 2 teen-agers texting. I would think nothing of a 19 and a 17 year old texting. I know she wasn't 17 but he thought she was. He should be careful in the future and I would see a solicitor about the accusations on the internet. It seems people think they can say whatever they want about others on the internet without consequences. It should be taken down.

A 15 and 19 year old sexting? Police wouldnt care!

That is really malicious of the other person
also your son isn’t a pedophile because a 15 year old isn’t a prepubescent child

@Stuckinarut23 could it of been the ex he was talking to under a different name on Snapchat and she's now saying it was a 15 year old, if she has all the screen shots, it norm tells ya on Snapchat if a screen shot has been taking.

She is real as she knows people he knows. No idea how the knows his ex.

But his ex girlfriend also knows people he knows.

How has his ex got screenshots of these messages? Has he been set up?

Was there actually a 15 year old? It wasn’t the ex gf doing a catfish type thing? She pretends to be 15, says she older, and it led to this?

If my 15 year old boy was receiving sexual messages from a 19 year old girl I would tell everyone she knows - work, family, friends and police that she's a vile pedo so apologies I'm of no help.

He isn’t a pedophile because he hasn’t slept with her.

the ex is playing a dangerous game. Making false accusations could get HER into trouble.

Contact the FB page and tell them that the allegations are false and you are worried about vigilantes

Even if the 15 year old said he was 17?

I would have an informal conversation with the Police. If there is nothing untoward I would want it shut down asap.

Does your DS’s ex have access to his social media accounts? Could she have hacked his account?
It does sound like he has been set up but like most teenage boys he’s fallen hook line and sinker.
He will have learned an important lesson about just how public sm accounts are and hopefully not be tempted to do it again.
I have DS19 and they can be pretty stupid when it comes to girls.

I would see if you can check if any other device has logged into his account. You may be able to do some damage limitation if you can prove his ex had some involvement. It does sound a bit suspicious that she seems to know so much.
I hope he has changed his password.

I tend to agree with other PP that it’s not really paedophile territory. My DH would have been 18/19 when he started going out with his then 15 yr old girlfriend. I am the same age as his first girlfriend and I’ve never considered our age gap, 3yrs, a problem.

Your DS’s biggest mistake was engaging in a sexual conversation without checking the girl out first.
I think he needs to come clean about the facts. Then work out how his ex found out. If she hacked his account and took screenshots then you could threaten her with going to the police but your DS isn’t going to come out of it smelling of roses unless you can prove that she cat fished the 15yr old girl, using your sons account.
Some people will do anything to cause problems.

Well it’s just a tough lesson learnt for him. He shouldn’t sext a 15 year old and should feel awkward. Serves him right. However it will pass and hopefully he will learn from the experience.