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Why would DS19 buy a Fentanyl test?

103 replies

Topaz67 · 14/01/2023 09:12

Just that really. Has he taken something? Found two tests in an envelope when I was retrieving plates and glasses from his room and was just about to chuck the envelope in the recycling. He’s at Uni quite locally and went for a quick trip back earlier this week to see his BF. DM is living with us at the moment and life is quite stressful without this…..

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Heyahun · 14/01/2023 09:13

Probably to make sure his mdma is mdma and not fentanyl which is super dangerous and been cause of lots of deaths.

CuriositysCat · 14/01/2023 09:16

Yes, as above. He is using street bought drugs and wants to check that they are pure.

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Topaz67 · 14/01/2023 17:27

Thanks. Any advice would be really welcome. We are in the process of understanding his bisexuality as this is his first relationship so the drug use is something else to learn about too. I’ve probably said that in the wrong way but we have other family issues at the moment, work isn’t great and other things which I can’t face writing about.

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holierthanthou73 · 14/01/2023 17:31

Topaz67 · 14/01/2023 09:12

Just that really. Has he taken something? Found two tests in an envelope when I was retrieving plates and glasses from his room and was just about to chuck the envelope in the recycling. He’s at Uni quite locally and went for a quick trip back earlier this week to see his BF. DM is living with us at the moment and life is quite stressful without this…..

We are trying to process his bisexuality??? What’s there to process??? What a strange thing to say?

3WildOnes · 14/01/2023 17:32

Can you post a picture or a link to the test?

FreezyWater · 14/01/2023 17:36

Using it to test street drugs, fentanyl is cropping up everywhere now and is exceedingly dangerous.
However, it is extremely likely that he was just given one on a night out. Doesn't necessarily mean he's actually taking drugs.

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 17:37

You don't need to understand his bisexuality. As long as he knows to only practice safe and consensual sex then who he's seeing doesn't really matter.

I'd go spare about the drugs tbh but I hate them. Young people have always experimented and always will.

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 17:38

Hold on. Would the uni include it in a freshers pack or something?

keepareaclean · 14/01/2023 17:39

We are in the process of understanding his bisexuality

It means he is attracted to, and likely to date and form relationships with, either:

A. Women

Or

B. Men

FreezyWater · 14/01/2023 17:39

Just be glad he's got them OP, these things didn't exist not so long ago nor were widely available. If he is actually taking drugs then he has clearly got advice as to how to manage (some) risks.

Ostryga · 14/01/2023 17:40

What is there to process about his sexuality? Do you need to process if he’s straight?

He’s 19, 19 year olds do stupid things. At least he’s being safe re fentanyl which could easily kill hun. Not saying taking drugs is a top notch idea, but he’s showing a tiny bit of responsibility.

FreezyWater · 14/01/2023 17:41

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 17:38

Hold on. Would the uni include it in a freshers pack or something?

Very likely

Reclining · 14/01/2023 17:42

Sounds like he's doing drugs in the most sensible way possible.

saveforthat · 14/01/2023 17:43

Get him to do his own washing up.

backtoyoutom · 14/01/2023 17:57

Heyahun · 14/01/2023 09:13

Probably to make sure his mdma is mdma and not fentanyl which is super dangerous and been cause of lots of deaths.

Yep.

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Topaz67 · 14/01/2023 18:02

Thanks for all the positive replies. The test pack came through the post and checking out something like this is something he would do. The company was Reagent Test UK.

Don’t judge unless you are in my exact position….ie son is ND, has never had a relationship and 6 weeks after starting Uni he’s got a BF. He’s my son, I love him, want him to be happy. We want to support him and meet BF. Would like him to tell his brothers and grandma. I’d really like him to do some washing up!

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holierthanthou73 · 14/01/2023 18:06

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LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 18:21

"Don’t judge unless you are in my exact position….ie son is ND, has never had a relationship and 6 weeks after starting Uni he’s got a BF."

Right, that's all pretty normal isn't it?

Mulhollandmagoo · 14/01/2023 18:22

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 17:38

Hold on. Would the uni include it in a freshers pack or something?

Yes, OP I would try not to worry, this is the kind of thing unis give out to students, it's a safety thing - it doesn't mean he is taking drugs.

holierthanthou73 · 14/01/2023 18:26

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 18:21

"Don’t judge unless you are in my exact position….ie son is ND, has never had a relationship and 6 weeks after starting Uni he’s got a BF."

Right, that's all pretty normal isn't it?

What’s your interpretation of “normal” smh

ThreeLocusts · 14/01/2023 20:54

OP I don't think you're homophobic for needing time to process the fact that your son belongs to a sexual minority.

You've clearly had a jolt from finding the tests and came here for advice. PPs being self-righteous and condescending to you on here reflects badly on them, not you.

ofwarren · 14/01/2023 20:57

Topaz67 · 14/01/2023 18:02

Thanks for all the positive replies. The test pack came through the post and checking out something like this is something he would do. The company was Reagent Test UK.

Don’t judge unless you are in my exact position….ie son is ND, has never had a relationship and 6 weeks after starting Uni he’s got a BF. He’s my son, I love him, want him to be happy. We want to support him and meet BF. Would like him to tell his brothers and grandma. I’d really like him to do some washing up!

My son is ND and also bisexual
When he told me I just said 'oh, ok' and that was it. No processing.
It's not a big deal at all.

MissingMoominMamma · 14/01/2023 21:00

I’d need time to process it if my son suddenly had a boyfriend when he’d only ever been interested in girls before. I don’t see what’s homophobic about that.

Human brains do need to process things they weren’t expecting.

MissingMoominMamma · 14/01/2023 21:00

And not all brains are the same!

Whatnextarghhhhhh · 14/01/2023 21:04

MissingMoominMamma · 14/01/2023 21:00

I’d need time to process it if my son suddenly had a boyfriend when he’d only ever been interested in girls before. I don’t see what’s homophobic about that.

Human brains do need to process things they weren’t expecting.

Yes but this is MN so clearly you’re an ogre for thinking that. Meanwhile back in the real world.