Why would DS19 buy a Fentanyl test?

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Just that really. Has he taken something? Found two tests in an envelope when I was retrieving plates and glasses from his room and was just about to chuck the envelope in the recycling. He’s at Uni quite locally and went for a quick trip back earlier this week to see his BF. DM is living with us at the moment and life is quite stressful without this…..

But surely if you're shocked by something then it's normal to need a bit of time to get used to it. When you think/assume things are one way and then find out they're another it's fine to need a bit of time to adjust. She's not telling her ds that he's wrong, it's bad or he doesn't even know what it means (like my mum did!).

I think anyway the point the OP is making is that she was just getting used to fact that his sexuality wasn't what she'd wrongly assumed, that he has a boyfriend very suddenly when he is vulnerable (people with ASD can be 3 years behind emotionally and are often easily manipulated) and now she's found drug tests in an envelope in his room.

Talk to him OP but go in very gently - and be aware that he really might not appreciate you looking in envelopes in his room. Go at it from the angle of concern and caring about him. I'd be lived and terrified but neither of those are going to help the situation.

*livid

I am sure there are lGBT kids in private schools/ but in my experience they are in their own wee group and still on the periphery. And there is of course homophobia amongst the parents- lots of raised eyebrows. That is why it would be hard for many parents as you know your child faces extra challenges to be accepted by the mainstream