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Horrible teen daughter (14) and Christmas (and presents)?

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ally0000 · 19/12/2022 18:58

I’m looking for advice/help. M52 been divorced 9 years and my only child, a daughter (F14) is being very nasty to me for spending time with my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and recently my daughter decided that I was spending too much time with her. My daughter sees my girlfriend once a week on a Saturday which this has been the situation for a few years now as my gf has a 6 year old and is busy during the week. I get comments such as "you don’t care about me” and "you only care about your girlfriend” which has now descended into "I hate you, you’re the worst Dad ever, etc”. She says all this then runs out my house and goes to her Mums, I can’t physically stop her, I stood in her way last night and she started hitting me which is obviously not OK.

The big issue now is that Christmas is a few days away and I'm already anticipating she won't come to my Mum's house on Christmas Day with me, my girlfriend and her son, she'll choose to stay behind with her Mum and I won't be able to force her to come......so my question is what to do if this happens, do I leave her behind or leave my girlfriend and her son behind, my gut says leave her behind but I'd like to hear some thoughts please?

My gut also says to not give her any Christmas presents as she's being such a a <bleep> but I'm not sure what to do, is that too much?

Many thanks :-)

OP posts:
ScrabbleRabbler · 22/12/2022 18:27

What is the relationship like between your girlfriend and daughter? Does your girlfriend have a positive interested rapport? Does your daughter feel like the gooseberry?

Does your daughter and girlfriend have a shared fun interest they can occasionally do without you to build positive rapport.

14 is a horrid age, hormones, social media, confidence issues. Just keep telling her you love her and share all the things you love about her. Thank her regularly for small things, show appreciation. Let her over hear you telling your girlfriend about your amazing daughter

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