Do your teens change for bed?

[RoseMartha]

My girls usually cant be bothered age 14 and 15. I brought them up to put nightwear on but in the last year or so they will happily just go to bed in what they had on in the day. They do change out of school uniform when they get in however. But weekends and school holidays they dont change and just go to bed on what they wore that day even if been somewhere fairly dirty.

The exception to this is if they bath or shower before bed, then they do stick nightwear on or just a random t shirt. The younger one has better personal hygiene than the older one who usually cant be bothered to wash either.

I do sometimes ask them to change for bed but i havent made a big thing about it because I have far bigger problems with them as in they have additional needs.

It does gross me out a bit though.

Is this normal for teens generally now?
(I always wore and wear nightwear).

I thought most people wore either nothing to bed or something specific for bed, whether that's just underwear or PJ's. I'm afraid I would associate wearing your day clothes to sleep in with quite a chaotic background.

Not in my experience. Shower before bed every night and into fluffy pyjamas.

During the summer months the vest and short type pyjamas from Primark.

I'm all for picking your battles but hygiene is non-negotiable here, and your lot are setting themselves up for bad habits as young adults.

Maybe nice Snow Fairy shower stuff for Christmas? Or even a trip to Home Bargains for a nice shower gel - Cussons have a lovely range of Marshmallowy type stuff for £1.

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I'm not discussing what my teenager wears to bed.

For example. They're lovely.

Then why respond?

Mine don’t bother as prefer t-shirt, shorts etc. they are always clean though.

Doesn't it ruin their clothes if they wear them constantly to bed?

Then why respond?

Mostly as a subtle warning, that didn't work, did it?

My sons wear pyjamas sometimes but would quite regularly wear the tee shirt they wore that day and boxers then shower in the morning and change clothes, is that what you mean? I asked a few people do their children wear pyjamas and they said the same

Teen DD with additional needs : shower or bath before bed and then changes into pjs.

This used to be a bone of contention in our house, dd wears her day clothes to bed most nights. However she does have severe anxiety & depression so as long as she’s showered/brushed her teeth I pick my battles.

Pyjamas.

This is something I’d really try to deal with- getting ready for bed- putting on something appropriate, washing, brushing teeth etc- is very basic self care. It’s not something you should let slip if you can help it.

I think madness makes a good point. . 2 of mine wear pj's, 1 wears clothes. He has pj's he just doesn't want to wear them. He's very clean. Showers daily. Puts fresh clothes on if he's leaving the house. I find it odd but I'm not prepared to argue with him over it. Our home life couldn't be any less chaotic. Plus he doesn't go round discussing his sleepwear with people and neither do I outside of an anonymous forum so people thinking it signals a chaotic home life or something isn't a concern.

They ought to be wearing nightwear (or nothing) ..even if its just a a t-shirt.

Its not good for mind or body to sleep in day clothes.

But I'm not judging as you say there are additional needs and you have other battles to fight.

I think it's good mentally to prepare for sleep by changing clothing.

It's not normal and shouldn't be allowed.

a shower before bed, into PJs then bed

I'm going to stand in front of my teenager and say this to him every night before bed 😂

I hope you do. We can't force them, but we can let them clearly know the standards we expect to be upheld in our home, and that there will be consequences should they not follow them. It's called parenting.

Dd likes to change into her pjs when she gets in from school. Does that count as sleeping in your day clothes, or living in your night clothes?

So even though he sleeps well and is comfortable, is an absolute pleasure to be around, is flying academically and well adjusted socially, very well behaved in and out of school, is very clean and dresses appropriately in all other scenarios, I should force him to wear pyjamas?
Forcing people to wear clothes they aren't comfortable with in the privacy of their own bedroom isn't really a standard of our home to be honest.

Revolting, sorry.

You know what they say about upholstery on public transport? So why would you want to take all those germs into your bed?

That is the most bonkers thing I've read on here for awhile.

What SHOULD be not normal or allowed, is parents micro managing every aspect of teenagers' lives down to the point of insisting they can't wear a tshirt to bed. I mean, if you have weird issues of your own and find it unpleasant by all means tell them so but to make a big deal out of it is utter madness.