Do your teens change for bed?

[RoseMartha]

My girls usually cant be bothered age 14 and 15. I brought them up to put nightwear on but in the last year or so they will happily just go to bed in what they had on in the day. They do change out of school uniform when they get in however. But weekends and school holidays they dont change and just go to bed on what they wore that day even if been somewhere fairly dirty.

The exception to this is if they bath or shower before bed, then they do stick nightwear on or just a random t shirt. The younger one has better personal hygiene than the older one who usually cant be bothered to wash either.

I do sometimes ask them to change for bed but i havent made a big thing about it because I have far bigger problems with them as in they have additional needs.

It does gross me out a bit though.

Is this normal for teens generally now?
(I always wore and wear nightwear).

As a teen and young adult I’d often drop in my clothes. I burned the candle at both ends and just fell asleep in what I was wearing.

A subtle warning about what? 🙄

I think you need to clarify what exactly you mean. I was wearing jeans, vest, jumper, socks, underwear until I changed for bed just now. Are you saying that they sleep in all of their clothes? If so, nope, not OK. If just in t-shirt and pants, fair enough. One of mine hasn't worn anything in bed since they were about 11, the other loves their pj's.

My DD teen gets changed into comfortable clothes when she comes in from school and those are what she sleeps in. She hates pyjamas. She's clean. So what's the problem?

Both mine shower every night then pajamas, t shirt. Aged 13 and 15. No way Id let them sleep in their clothes- thats like letting them go to supermarket in pajamas. Gross. Standards people!

my youngest will often sleep in clothes she has worn in the day, particularly weekends and holidays. She has anxiety, likely ASD and as someone else said before, we choose our battles.

My two (boys) aren't properly comfortable until they've had a shower and clean pyjamas but when they have sleepovers they sometimes sleep in their clothes if they're comfortable.

Because it's gross. Good bed hygiene is called that for a reason. Ok it's mainly about having a tidy space without distractions - but going yo bed in clothing that is not primarily used for bed means you go to sleep in clothing thats likely yo be stinky

My understanding is @Tallulah28 is indicating the original post may not be genuine / in the spirit.

Ds1 changes into pyjamas. Ds2 wears his boxers and t-shirt he was wearing during the day. Ds3 varies between the two. They all spend far to much time in the shower. I change into pyjamas every night and have to battle for a slot in the shower queue.

My understanding is @Tallulah28 is indicating the original post may not be genuine / in the spirit.

Nope, that's not what I meant. Just simply be careful what you post online. Your teenagers bed attire isn't something you need to make public.

If you don't have a problem with it, fine. Bit equally you don't need to have a problem with me mentioning it.

Thanks for clarifying.

are they wake have nightmares?ee you do?
if.......and it is if...they are capable of go out 5days a week-to standard expected(fresh clothes,brushed hair,bathed,fed,n oblivious)leave em to it?what do they see you do???????

Its not normal for my two teen girls no. They get pjs on.

Are we talking just wearing the top they wore that day or jeans etc?

I’d say the former is ok, the latter not so much.

teen dds change for bed. Dd1 usually wears pjs. Dd2 just a baggy t shirt.

Just simply be careful what you post online. Your teenagers bed attire isn't something you need to make public.

Honestly don't think anyone is getting their rocks off looking at the word "pyjamas".

I'd think of this as part of the sort of good habits that can support MH. Getting into a good routine re sleep and taking care of yourself is very helpful. Might be worth asking of there is anything that would encourage them to change- eg a different style of PJs more like leisurewear that they could also wear at home before bed?

@Bananamaman

That's fine then, no need for you to respond to me because it's clear I wasn't talking to you. I was talking to people who may think 'hmm, oh yeah, perhaps I won't post this level of detail about my child'. There is nothing wrong with exercising caution, if you don't think it necessary just move along and make your post.

I know I'm going against the grain here but I don't see the issue.

My teen DD often wears hoody and joggers to bed that she's been wearing all day. I'd prefer her to change into pyjamas but she's high achieving and happy, I can't get too worked up about it. Not a chaotic household

Mine kind of has a set of lounge wear/yoga type stuff to slob about it when at home. They go to bed in that.

Judging by the amount of washing I do I just keep an eye on it and like others it is generally me who showers less anyway as i can't get in the bathroom often.

If they change out of uniform then I don’t see the issue.
So at some point in the evening they put joggers/pyjamas on. Does it really matter whether it is ten minutes before bed or an hour or two?
What germs are you worried about being on your sofa and then transferring to their bed?

@madnesss I didn't respond to you (which would involve @ ing you or using the quote function). I pulled out part of your post to comment on for general consumption. I don't think scaremongering is very helpful.

Going to leave this now, enjoy your day.

Yes of course my teens change to pjs. They may add a hoodie to sleep in but not one they've worn all day.

Pretty rank otherwise.

I didn't respond to you (which would involve @ ing you or using the quote function). I pulled out part of your post to comment on

Really?

Sure thing.

I don't think scaremongering is very helpful.

I don't think scaremongering applies to what was initially a subtle comment intended to make people think about what they were posting.