Should my working daughter pay rent?

[Jemilina]

My 17-year-old daughter is working full time. Last year she was in college and I spent a lot of time supporting her, but she really struggled. I agreed with her decision to leave college but I told her my expectation was she would find a job and pay us some rent. At the time she agreed. I would like her to pay £100 a month. She is refusing. My mum thinks I'm wrong to ask her for rent. A couple of good friends think my expectation is fine. My daughter does very little around the house. Am I reasonable to expect this or not?

I don’t understand how she’s working when she’s supposed to be in some form of education until 18?

I don’t understand how she’s working when she’s supposed to be in some form of education until 18?
You dont ha e to be in education if you have a job
You have to be in education employment or training. ( in theory anyway!)

I don't take anything from mine. One is working full time and saving hard and the other is at uni but lives at home so is able to save a lot of the student loan. I'm happy for them to stay here for free as they are both saving for their futures. DS wants to do a phd and DD is working towards a house deposit.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

I don’t understand how she’s working when she’s supposed to be in some form of education until 18?

You are allowed to leave school and have a job at 16.

it is the same as not teaching them to cook, use a washing machine

I wasn't taught to do those things. As an adult, I know how to do them and actually can cook very well. You just look up recipes online and how to do them, or read the washing machine instructions. Idk why you would need to be actually taught by your parents, it's not some obscure knowledge that isn't readily available online.

My 18 year old ds is working full time , currently we don't charge him rent as he is saving for uni and will need money to get through as maintenance loan won't cover it
If he wAs just working though yes although on here you will find people who think that is awful( normally the well off & priviledged) also the fact you call it rent , many used to call it keep or just say a contribution to bills which seems to be more acceptable than rent ( yet same thing)

School leaving age from government website.

She is supposed to be in some sort of trading/ education/ doing voluntary work until 18

www.gov.uk/know-when-you-can-leave-school

[quote ArseInTheCoOpWindow]School leaving age from government website.

She is supposed to be in some sort of trading/ education/ doing voluntary work until 18

www.gov.uk/know-when-you-can-leave-school[/quote]

I think you should read your own link

The uk leaving age is 18. She can’t just leave education and get a job until she is 18.

Sorry ignore me, I'm an idiot

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

The uk leaving age is 18. She can’t just leave education and get a job until she is 18.

No, the ENGLISH leaving age is 18.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow you realise thats only so we don't have to pay jobseekers right
Many kids left at 16 and went straight on jobseekers
So your now encouraged to go into higher education, apprentice , work as there is no jobseekers
For 16-18
My nephew left school at 16 never went to work or college etc and only just started working at 23 - lived of bank of mum and dad

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow at least 6 of my 16 yeAr old ds friends have all left school and gone straight to work and not on apprenticeship and we are in england

*You must then do one of the following until you’re 18:

stay in full-time education, for example at a college
start an apprenticeship or traineeship
spend 20 hours or more a week working or volunteering, while in part-time education or training*

I’m confused. You say she’s not at college or in an apprenticeship? She can work part time and but must still do some form of education.

You said your daughter had left college and was working at 17?

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow no they don't have to be in any kind of education !!!!!

I’m only quoting what l know and off the gov. Website.

Well its wrong i can assure you I know several who work full time at 16 in local fast food it is allowed

If you look up same gov website of what ages children can work you will see 16 so it contradicts itself
You are not the only person who thinks this is true and I thought same until my nephew left school and just stayed home

I was a secondary school teacher including A level up to last year.

They are meant to be in some sort of education or trading until 18. They might not be, but they are supposed to be. If they are worrying full time in facst food, there should be some sort of learning or qualification on the job.

Not everyone dies, but you are supposed to be.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow it doesn't seem to be followed at all and i know some who just stay home and nothing is done either
The ones on the fast food no I'm not sure they are gaining a qualification , of course you could say training as you have to train for any job, my 16 year old ds works there part time and does training
2 of them maybe are on a proper training programme ,one of his friends i think may of even left , he dropped out college , then went to work and now stopped and nothing seems to be done about it

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow so yes your right it does seem they are supposed to but in reality it doesn't seem to be followed by all

spend 20 hours or more a week working or volunteering, while in part-time education or training

Training can be in house training provided by a company or it can be 1 day per week at college. The company I work for offers both depending on the role.

She can’t just leave education and get a job until she is 18

Well, she can. Nobody can force her to go to college if she doesn't want to. I would guess the penalities for such a thing would fall to the parents.

She doesn’t have to do to college, she could be educated at work.

I’m sure employers don’t meet the obligations as it’s too expensive. But however you look at it, 18 is the ‘school leaving age’

If she was my daughter l’d be checking the employer was fulfilling it’s obligations.

Idk what you would do if they weren't. You can't force her to quit the job either. It's her decision to make. If what she's chosen isn't legally right, the most you could do is punish her I suppose.