Son called his teacher a c***

[Lollysticks12]

Gobsmacked, shocked, embarrassed by his behaviour, he is getting worse and no punishment seems to bother him.

13 year old son is now on report at school and is being sent to isolation for 3 days. At home he is lovely and funny but will not behave at school. He lies about how he's behaved at school then it's only when school call that I get the full story. I have made him email an apology.

I don't know what else to do, so far I've tried no football, no PS4, no phone, earlier bed time , no meeting friends. Not all at once though , does anyone have any suggestions?
He has already moved forms because of his behaviour and he calmed for a while.

@Thatldo

Any teacher or parent who's only coping mechanism with a teenage girl or boy,who uses swearwords,is confisgating things should neither be a teacher nor parent.in fact,as quite evident from this thread,very few parents here seem to communicate with their son.No wonder,we have later in life boyfriends,husbands and also wifes,who dont now how to communicate about their inner anxieties.

Reading this makes me think of this recent thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4414799-To-be-fed-up-with-the-lazy-graduates-I-work-with

The problem being that parents and other adults in young people’s lives can go too far in the other direction too and you end up with the risk of inner anxieties being used as a validated excuse rather than reason.

Trying to strike the middle ground between the two approaches is what we should be aiming for, in my opinion: consequences, alongside discussion, understanding and support.

Perfectly possible that the teacher was being an arse but your DS needs to learn how to deal with that without losing his temper and swearing. He’s going to encounter such people throughout life so he needs strategies to keep a clear head and make good decisions even when he feels provoked. I’d suggest a short course with a psychologist who specialises in adolescence and anger management.

Short and specific punishment for this particular offence, then leave it in the past if he commits to try to improve.