DS15 not come home and it's 3.17am

[worriedmum80]

Not sure why I'm posting here just need some positive hope and words.

DS15 went out with mates at 5pm told me he'd be back at 10pm.
I texted him at 9.40 asking him not to be late as I was going to bed with DD8mnths. He replied I'll be 40 mins my phone battery is on 2%.
That's the last I've heard from him!!

I'm been trying his phone and it's obviously off now, I e ring the police and reported him missing now I'm just sat here shaking, worried thinking the worst. What more can I do, I feel hopeless! Can't go driving looking around for him, the baby's in bed asleep.

He's not the best behaved teenager, admitted he goes to party with his mates, they sometimes have a few drinks just the usual "teenage" stuff.
Now I'm worried he's got drunk passed out somewhere or been in a fight and in a bad way somewhere. Why would he say he'd be 40 mins. The latest he's ever been is maybe 11-11.30

Our eldest is 18 now but I can tell you we have had three years of teen horror, starting at 15. We had the sporadic disappearances with no contact to contend with, the worry and the anger at his lack of consideration and flouting of the rules.

He will have fallen asleep or decided to go on a night time adventure with his pals. He will be ok. In the meantime, sit tight.

Excuses you will get regarding lack of contact:

No battery
No reception
No one had a charger
I had my phone on silent, sorry
I left my phone in Ryan’s bag
I fell asleep and didn’t hear it

There are more that I can’t recall atm. Truth is, he’s ignoring your calls.

Unfortunately it sounds like the floodgates have opened and he’s making his bid for independence. You, your curfew and your need for contact may well go out the window. You can try grounding him but if he’s anything like my lad, he’ll just go out anyway.

We had many nights like yours. It was terrible...and what’s more, he didn’t care that we were worried. He would apologise, sure...but he’d just do it again. It hasn’t been fun.

Good news is, he’s 18 now and much better at giving us the heads up - but of course, he’s his own man now and no longer under our jurisdiction so the pressure to do as he’s told is no longer a factor.

He wanted that independence at 15 and we all struggled to deal with it.
It was a difficult time...but it does get better.

These are the days I dread about my children growing up. I hope he comes home or at the least gets in contact soon

as the parent of a teen boy, hope everything is OK, completely understand why you are worried but try not to be angry when he gets back, you don't want to push him away.

Oh how worrying. I hope he’s home soon.

@worriedmum80 you poor thing. Fingers crossed that he is home soon. You must be physically and emotionally shattered.

Do you have a local Facebook group - could you post his picture on there? Someone might have seen him/know where he is but not realised he is missing

Hope he’s home soon Op

Any news op? Praying he is okay.
Can you contact even one of his friends and ask them to post something on SM? It should help as they are all connected.

Really hoping he's ok OP. If you know what the login is to his iTunes account log into Find my iPhone using it and get his last location.

I have been checking for an update. Thinking of you. (((Hugs)))

So worrying for you @worriedmum you must be physically and emotionally exhausted. Sit tight, I hope he's home soon and realised how much worry he's caused.

Hope he's ok & home soon OP

I'm reading this with years rolling down my face. I now realise what I put my parents through. I hope all turns out to be ok for you xxx.

The little git!

He will have no idea how worried you are - the typical selfishness of a teenager. He''ll just come back and roll his eyes and go all sullen on you for "nagging".

I wish we could just flip our worry switch to "off" and get a night's sleep in these situations.

Hope he is back soon so you can give him a bollocking and collapse with sheer relief.!

I can still remember looking in the mirror after one of these nights and a very old woman looking back at me. Huge sympathy OP.

Any news OP?

Oh and to add...we have two younger dc not at that stage...yet. One down, two to go.

I never anticipated that parenting a teen would be as tough as it is.

Just an update his friends mum just messaged me back. He's gone back to another mates house.

He's just texted me saying he got really drunk last night and was scared to come home so his mate took him back to his house. He was last that drunk he couldn't get his phone out to put it on charge!

I've informed the police and they are going to bring him home, hopefully put the shocks up him a little.

Can't tell you all how relieved I am, I want to squeeze him right and strangle him at the same time.

Thanks again for all your kind words xx

So relieved for you.
Bloody teenagers.

Another mum with 15 year old DS here. Sorry you are going through this; it is so stressful

So glad he's ok & you've heard! Hopefully the police picking him up will be enough to scare him into never putting you through that again! Hug him tight, wee shitbag! Lol.

Oh! Just saw your message - thank goodness . You must be so relieved.

So glad he's ok. Once the dust settles, I think a stern talking to is in order!

Thank god for that! I hope he learns a lesson.

I honestly wouldn’t be shouting but I would be letting him now how frightened you have been and how much you love him.

Hopefully the police will talk some sense into him- he made himself very vulnerable last night. I’m glad his friends took care of him. At least that’s one positive.