DS15 not come home and it's 3.17am

[worriedmum80]

Not sure why I'm posting here just need some positive hope and words.

DS15 went out with mates at 5pm told me he'd be back at 10pm.
I texted him at 9.40 asking him not to be late as I was going to bed with DD8mnths. He replied I'll be 40 mins my phone battery is on 2%.
That's the last I've heard from him!!

I'm been trying his phone and it's obviously off now, I e ring the police and reported him missing now I'm just sat here shaking, worried thinking the worst. What more can I do, I feel hopeless! Can't go driving looking around for him, the baby's in bed asleep.

He's not the best behaved teenager, admitted he goes to party with his mates, they sometimes have a few drinks just the usual "teenage" stuff.
Now I'm worried he's got drunk passed out somewhere or been in a fight and in a bad way somewhere. Why would he say he'd be 40 mins. The latest he's ever been is maybe 11-11.30

I hope he comes home soon you must be out of your mind with worry.

SS won't get involved for goodness sake. It's either a missing person (extremely unlikely) or a typical teenage behaviour.

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I remember getting a few wallops of a slipper one night when I was about 1-2 hours later home than usual. A friend's Mum was to collect us, but she fell asleep and was late coming to collect us. We were standing in the freezing cold waiting on her and then I come home to a slipper wielding mother!!

Another handhold OP, thinking of you xx

Any updates from the police?

I hope you get some news soon OP

OP I really hope you get some news soon
Have to say I’m a bit surprised you felt the baby having sleep was more important.

I have a 15 year oldDS and I’d have driven to that location myself, baby in car seat, told his dad straight away and asked any relatives I can to drive and ring round the hospitals etc

But then maybe it’s just so out of character for my DS I’d feel differently. Maybe I’m a massive overreacter?

I hope he gets an idea of what he has put you through. Teenagers are so selfish.

Make sure you update all the mates phone numbers on your new phone once he is back.

Keeping all my fingers crossed for you

Oh god you must be out of your mind with worry. Hope he turns up very soon. It’s so much harder knowing who their friends are when they get older , or who they are out with. Hopefully someone will reply to your messages soon. Does he have a snapchat account , I know that’s the quickest way to get hold of my teens.

With regards to SS, Police will HAVE to do a referral as they are having contact with a minor. This happens when a child is a victim of crime too. It's for every contact and standard policy. Having said that, an incident like this will most likely get screened and put away you won't even get a phone call.
Unless you're living in a crack den and that's why he's run away or going missing becomes a regular occurrence. OP you have nothing to worry about regarding that aspect. And I work in this field, don't let these comments worry you further.

Hope all is well, OP, and that he's back home soon.

I hope he's home soon op and you get some rest!

Teenagers can really give you grey hair

You must be shattered OP. Hope he is home soon

Hope he’s back soon.

SS would not be involved

Your son is classed as having a misper episode. He will be offered a return home interview by early services/youth services. Your ds can refuse this or explain to them why he went missing.

Yes this will be recorded in SS database but it will not be looked at by different sws. It will be a record with your sons details and misper record. It wont go anywhere and lots of people have them. Tbh I doubt he'll get offered a return if the police feel it's a normal teenage misper.

Realy hoping for a positive outcome here but he would be getting some home truths explained to him. Sadly it's not uncommon for mothers in my area to get devastating news so I would be out knocking at every door I could think of. Local news sites on fb can circulate a photo. No chance would baby sleeping have been a consideration.

You poor thing. I reckon he went to the party and fell asleep or at a friends house afterwards, planning on getting home before you woke up.
When he’s back, and he will be back shortly, ground him for next weekend and grant him freedom contingent on find friends on his phone and having it charges at all times. Buy him a battery pack as an early christmas present if he can’t fund one himself.

Hope hes back soon

He will be home soon, full of the ‘what’s the big deal’ bravado.

I’m glad your sister is there, someone to look after the baby & provide . a bit of each of emotional support.

Hope he is back soon! X

Op I can't imagine the worry you are going through. Hope you hear somthing very soon.

Let us know when he's back, we're all worrying too !

If he has Instagram could you tag him in a post asking any of his friends who saw him/might know to get in touch?

Hope he is home soon

I'm sure he'll be back soon OP. My DS16 is the opposite and rarely leaves the house which worries me but this puts it in to perspective. Let us know when he gets back.