DS15 not come home and it's 3.17am

[worriedmum80]

Not sure why I'm posting here just need some positive hope and words.

DS15 went out with mates at 5pm told me he'd be back at 10pm.
I texted him at 9.40 asking him not to be late as I was going to bed with DD8mnths. He replied I'll be 40 mins my phone battery is on 2%.
That's the last I've heard from him!!

I'm been trying his phone and it's obviously off now, I e ring the police and reported him missing now I'm just sat here shaking, worried thinking the worst. What more can I do, I feel hopeless! Can't go driving looking around for him, the baby's in bed asleep.

He's not the best behaved teenager, admitted he goes to party with his mates, they sometimes have a few drinks just the usual "teenage" stuff.
Now I'm worried he's got drunk passed out somewhere or been in a fight and in a bad way somewhere. Why would he say he'd be 40 mins. The latest he's ever been is maybe 11-11.30

Have u got any of his friends' numbers? Or friends' parents' numbers?
He is probably absolutely fine & passed out but I'd be worried sick too.
Good luck

@Fifteenthnamechange no I don't, I changed my phone a couple of days ago and most of my numbers haven't saved.
I've messaged a couple of his friends on social media but no reply.

I'm really hoping he's passed out at someone's house, just worried me that if he had then why couldn't he charge his phone!

Thanks

I'm so sorry you're so worried. I would be climbing the walls. All I know is that there would be hell to pay. Massive consequences are in order.

Did he say where he was going?

Sit tight he will be ok, where was he when he was out

I heard him mentioning a party to a friend on the phone. I told him he wasn't aloud to this party due to it being in not a nice area. So he said he wouldn't go and that he was meeting a couple of girls with his friends.

Obviously he's gone to the party!
He's told me before I need to let him stay out later, all his friends don't have to be in till 12 whilst he has to be home for 10.30-11 the latest.
That's another reason I'm so worried, it's way past 12!!

Me and his dad are no longer together and after this I feel like packing his stuff and sending him off to his for a few weeks. See if he takes the piss then.

Police have just been said they live passed his pic onto cctv in town centre and called round all hospitals and custody suites. They are going to put a trace on his phone so as soon as it's turned on they get a "ping" on their system.
It's just a waiting game now

Did you give the police the address of the party

I hope he manages to get a phone charger soon. You'll be his first call when he wakes up from his slumber. I hope it's soon.

I am sure everything thing will be fine, but as a mum of a teenager I just wanted to say I'm here for you and know exactly how you are feeling.

I didn't ask for the address cos at the time I stupidly believed that he wouldn't go. After checking his location on my app he was at the same place for the last 2 hours of his phone being on so I've given the police that location.

I really hope I here something soon, it's now 4.35am, I've had no sleep at all and the baby will be up in the next couple of hours. No sleep an 8 month old baby and a missing son I'm really starting to feel hopeless now

*hear

Oh god, I’m dreading having teens because of this and also think back to all of the angst I caused my parents... is there another adult with you OP? Hope he’s home safe soon

Just offering you another hand to hold. Well done on phoning the Police and they are doing everything they need to do. When they find him, or he calls for a lift home in the morning that will make him think twice about doing it again.
Hopefully you’re friends will see the messages when they wake up. If you were my friend I’d come and let you sleep for a few hours in the morning

Reading things like this makes me feel like such an ass when I’d do it to my mum 😭

Wow what a worry. I really hope he turns up soon and just fell asleep somewhere.

Can you call his dad and get him involved?

I really hope you hear some soon. It was almost easier when they were young and went everywhere with us!!!!

Hope you hear soon! Take time tomorrow to rest where you can. Tbh I'd be telling 15yr old to watch 18 month old for half hour while you have a nap!

Oh gosh I’m so sorry he’s causing you such stress.

My friend used to do this a lot to her parents. We used to go out at 16 and she’d go back to some random blokes house. My mother insisted on picking me up at 11pm.

The next day her mum would ring and ask me where she was. I always said she was at her ex’s house. I didn’t want her to worry. Poor woman. Looking back possibly that wasn’t the best response but at 16 I didn’t know what else to say. God knows if she went looking for her each time but my friend always turned up safe and well having had sex with some random.

It is very very very likely your ds will too. Not that this is any consolation right now.

Been there, seen that, bought the T-shirt both as a teenager and as the mum. I'm so glad those days have passed. I hope you hear from him soon.

Thinking of you OP. Hoping he appears home soon. Can you try having a lie down and shutting your eyes? Even if you don't fall asleep you'll feel more rested for it.

It's little consolation I'm sure, but he's likely sleeping it off after drinking a skinful. He'll be home in the morning with his tail between his legs and the worst hangover of his life (if there's any justice!)

I hope you hear something soon!

Oh jeez OP, I have a son of the same age and I'd be a nervous wreck so I really hope you find out where he is asap

I do hope you hear from him soon.

My db was very much like that when we were young and my mum eventually had enough and packed him off to live with dad. Db only lasted there a few weeks and rang mum full of remorse asking to come home! Worked well for them. Friends now can’t believe how awful he was as a teenager as he is so placid and laid back.

Hope you have heard all is okay now OP