DS15 not come home and it's 3.17am

[worriedmum80]

Not sure why I'm posting here just need some positive hope and words.

DS15 went out with mates at 5pm told me he'd be back at 10pm.
I texted him at 9.40 asking him not to be late as I was going to bed with DD8mnths. He replied I'll be 40 mins my phone battery is on 2%.
That's the last I've heard from him!!

I'm been trying his phone and it's obviously off now, I e ring the police and reported him missing now I'm just sat here shaking, worried thinking the worst. What more can I do, I feel hopeless! Can't go driving looking around for him, the baby's in bed asleep.

He's not the best behaved teenager, admitted he goes to party with his mates, they sometimes have a few drinks just the usual "teenage" stuff.
Now I'm worried he's got drunk passed out somewhere or been in a fight and in a bad way somewhere. Why would he say he'd be 40 mins. The latest he's ever been is maybe 11-11.30

I’d go to the place where his phone was for the last two hours while it had signal?go there and see if that’s where the party was?

I hope he's back soon.

Hi OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Could you drive round to his friends' houses and see if he's there? Perhaps your sister could take you or she can stay home with the baby while you go.

He'll be OK x

I hope you hear something very soon. I can't imagine the worry you're going through

Hope you are ok OP I can only imagine the worry. My bet is he’ll be home later this morning with sheepish apologies about falling asleep at a friends!

What about his Facebook - can you try contacting his friends on there and ask if they have seen him? I've done that with my sons in the past

I hope you hear something very soon! Give him a big hug - everything else can be sorted out later! Thinking of you

Oh god OP, I have a son of almost the same age and this is my worst nightmare. I hope he comes home soon

Oh OP - how worrying for you. He's probably passed out on a friend's couch. I hope he's home soon x

Anothe handhold op - really hope he stumbles in hungover and apologetic any minute now xxx

I agree that yelling isn't the way but he needs to know how awfully he has behaved.

you also need a consequences plan.

firstly. in future if at any time the power on his phone dips below 15% and he can't charge it then all previous agreements about return time are cancelled and he comes home immediately. he must not be out of the house and uncontactable again.

secondly he has demonstrated that he can't be trusted and he needs to re earn trust. the next time he goes out the curfew will be 9:00pm. ridiculously early yes and deliberately so. if he succeeds in being home on time then it will be 9.15 the next time, and continue to get later and later as he demonstrates his trustworthiness. if he fails it will be 8.45 next time and can get earlier if need be.

also need an inconvenient and annoying consequence eg loss of access to video games if a curfew is breached.

Have you told his Dad? You might find he turns up there to avoid the confrontation he assumes is waiting for him at home.

Hope he's ok, you must be so worried

Oh also do you have a local area Facebook page. There are always posts on ours saying if anyone has seen X please tell them to get in touch etc nearly always teenagers on a Saturday or Sunday morning when they havent come home.

Oh god OP. I've got a 14YO just starting to push boundaries and go out to parties etc. It's so worrying. :-(
Big hand hold for you. Really hope he's home soon.

He may be a while. Gone to party, stayed up late, cars out til mid morning.

OP hope he is home soon.
This is my greatest worry approaching the teenage years.

At this point I would be so worried
Yes likely passed out in friend’s living room
But I would be calling any number I have related to any of his friends - parents etc.

I’d be calling local hospitals and police stations just in case passed out on street and no id

And finally if not word at 10Am, I’d be calling the police

Hoping he is back soon. I am sure he will be sleeping it off.

Bloody hell, teenagers are sent to test us aren't they?!
Hope he turns up soon and you manage to get some rest

Hope you hear something soon, I think also passed out on a couch somewhere.

Hopefully he will be back soon- I would suggested making it a "house rule" that you can't go out unless your phone is fully charged- this would have prevented all this stress and worry for you!

I hope he is home soon OP.

Any update OP? Thinking of you and your son!

Any updated OP?? I hope all is ok ! I’m glad you managed to sleep a little ! Thinking of you x