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Would your teen be offended by the following

148 replies

AvenueQ · 22/08/2019 19:03

A parent saying about a pool at the holiday villa

"We'll have to send you lot to bed early so that (other parent) and I can go skinny dipping"

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/08/2019 23:21

My 25yo would probably roll his eyes and that would be the end of it. Really not sure where the anger is coming from?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/08/2019 23:21

Sorry 15 yo.

MyBlueMoonbeam · 22/08/2019 23:22

What EAIOU said - totally inappropriate comment to make IMO

RubbingHimSourly · 22/08/2019 23:25

Mine would roll their eyes and make retching / vomit noises. Complete with ewww sounds. As is appropriate.

Your DD needs to get over herself.

RubbingHimSourly · 22/08/2019 23:29

And you need to start backing your husband up and pulling your DD up for being an obnoxious madam. Ruining a holiday and raging over a bad joke is not on.

Brittany2019 · 22/08/2019 23:30

Erk. I was a horrible teen, but your Dd thinking your Dh is «an oaf» sounds disgustingly disrespectful. I wouldn’t be happy about that at all.

Louisasasa · 22/08/2019 23:33

I have no clue why she’d be raging
She needs to learn not to take stuff so seriously I think

Contraceptionismyfriend · 22/08/2019 23:36

You say they don't get on. Does she often do this? Create drama out of nothing? Seems a bit bullyish.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 22/08/2019 23:36

She needs to calm the fuck down and you need to stop pandering to her.

quizqueen · 22/08/2019 23:37

What on earth is the matter with skinny dipping? If my daughter was still a teenager and she was embarrassed if I did it at a hotel, well she could just stay in the room.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/08/2019 23:39

So in her head Dad threatened to send her to bed early so you and he could have sex in tbe pool she wants to swim in.

I get by she's upset, teenage irrationality and all, but if it was meant as a joke, she got upset, did someoen tell her it was a joke? Does she often feel pushed out? Why are you angry at DH if you know it was just a joke?

RubbingHimSourly · 22/08/2019 23:44

Sleeping what on earth are you waffling on about ? Hmm

Maybe83 · 22/08/2019 23:45

Mine 17 year old would oh my God mam eeeugh and laugh.

My ss in his 20s would singer.

Both would know we were joking.

I honestly would tell her to cut it out now and it was joke. If she didnt find it funny it's ok to say so but perspective is needed and then that be the end of it.

It says alot that you are raging with your dh over it.

Maybe83 · 22/08/2019 23:46

The auto correct in that post is awful.

My 17 year old! And my ss would snigger!

OhMsBeliever · 22/08/2019 23:48

My teens would roll their eyes at me, they're used to me saying daft things (like me seeing some celebrity in a skimpy outfit and telling them I'm going to wear it to parents evening. I think I'm hilariousGrin)

It's just a dad joke, surely?

Krisskrosskiss · 22/08/2019 23:53

I'd understand her thinking it was yuck... but prolonged anger is a massive overreaction...
16 year olds have intense emotions sometimes... that's normal but dont exacerbate it by reacting strongly in any way to it. Keep neutral and calm. She IS overreacting but it's best to ignore rather than confront that until shes calmed down. Dont pander to her either though. Just dont discuss it. Dont take anyones side just try and change the subject. Encourage your husband to do the same. 16 year olds can fly off the handle at some strange stuff.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/08/2019 23:54

@RubbingHimSourly DD didn't take it as a joke, she seems to think she's being sent away so Mom and Dad can have sex in tbe pool she'll be swimming in the next day.

So did anyone actually say calm down, it was a joke. Don't over react.? Or has she over reacted because she's often pushed aside and not included in things so Mom and Dad can be alone together and she's fed up of feeling in tbe way?

I might be tired but I don't think my post was that hard to read

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 22/08/2019 23:54

God, I say things like this to our dc! Dd would roll her eyes and pretend to puke. Ds would ask if he could skinny dip too.

Sounds like your dd is looking for an excuse to be shitty to her dad...

RubbingHimSourly · 22/08/2019 23:57

sleeping he didn't say they were going to have sex in the pool. He said they were going to go skinny dipping........my teen DC have SN and they know what bloody skinny dipping is.

She sounds like a bully who whips up drama out of nothing. Nipping it in the bud will be doing her a massive favour

FrancisCrawford · 23/08/2019 00:02

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HepzibahGreen · 23/08/2019 00:04

Skinny dipping is naked swimming? So not sex? What's offensive about swimming naked as long as it's private among adults?

NoCauseRebel · 23/08/2019 00:06

My sixteen year old would eyeroll and laugh because he’d know that I was joking.

In fact often I’ll see someone fancyable (and famous) on tv and go mmm “ I would,” Grin.

Actually this morning I was talking about something wrt my DP (and I honestly can’t remember what it was,) but the sentence ended with “he can’t keep it up.” Which had absolutely nothing to do with sex, Grin but I went, um,.... “not like that obviously,” and ds laughed. He knew what I meant but he was amused at my embarrassment.

If your DD and dh don’t get on then you’re not helping by supporting her in this childish reaction. She sounds like a petulant brat and needs to grow up. And you need to stop buying into her apparent upset because it’s not upset it’s brat behaviour designed to put down her dh.

IHaveBrilloHair · 23/08/2019 00:07

Dd would roll her eyes and then laugh, it's a daft joke surely?

DowntonCrabby · 23/08/2019 00:10

Mine would roll her eyes and probably make a face, she’s 14.

Your DD will be facing a lot more “offence” in the big wide world soon, I’d expect a 16 year old to be more mature.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 23/08/2019 00:11

And you need to stop buying into her apparent upset because it’s not upset it’s brat behaviour designed to put down her dh.

^This

My teens would say 'eeeew' pull a face and laugh.
Do you often take her side against your DH, OP? She sounds a bit of a drama queen

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