Would your teen be offended by the following

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A parent saying about a pool at the holiday villa

"We'll have to send you lot to bed early so that (other parent) and I can go skinny dipping"

I always used to say daft things like that to mine.
They just used to mutter ' for gods sake!' so I would ramp it up a bit more. Just part of silly things we say to each other.
As for your Dd raging and you angry, if this was in my house I'd be stunned at you both and tell you both to get a grip, it was a joke!!!

So what if your DD is angry about it? Your DH is a grown up who can say what he wants.

His joke was a bit grim. She is massively overreacting. You being angry at DH is also a massive overreaction.

Everyone involved needs to take a deep breath, chill out and move on.

I bet she is a young teen ?

Dh isn't her dad, is he?

It’s an excellent idea for getting rid of your teenager on holiday, I have noted it for future use - thank you.

At home Dh and I can get the living room to ourselves to watch Tv if we start to kiss and cuddle in front of our teens. They are very Puritan.

If not then in a way it’s worse as it’s waiting to get rid of DD and also talking about sexual activity with her mum. Yuk to both.

Swimming without bathing suits is not a sexual activity.

My children would find it hilarious.

Is he her dad?

Even now I hate it when they do it. . I am not a prude ....honestly..... Just no....

No, my kids would say "eurgh, hope we don't catch you" or similar and that would be it. Tell her to grow up.

I think if he is her father lends some context

Assuming he is then no she is being uptight and ridiculous

I don’t think parents should openly discuss their sex life or anything but a very tame joke about jumping in the pool in the nude is hardly worthy of her getting all stressed

Mine would just go oh mum and that would be it I suspect

When we skinny dipped the kids did too, albeit it was late at night and my oldest was 12. Don’t think he was put out

Just as long as you don't mind your teens bringing their boyfriend /girlfriend into the living room and snogging them on the couch beside you Olga

Cuts both ways

Wow your DD needs to get a sense of humour. Nothing wrong with it.

Seems an overreaction on her part tbh. What’s the circumstances...is he her bio dad? Do they normally get on well?

Does he often make her uncomfortable/ignore her boundaries (in her opinion)? If yes then I'd be angry too, if not I'd just try to give dd space to work out her angst by herself.

Skinny dipping does not mean snogging or having sex in the pool.

Skinny dipping does not mean snogging or having sex in the pool.

A teenager may not realise this. I wonder if she genuinely thought you'd send them to bed early so you can have 'alone time'.

We went on holiday a couple of times as teenagers where my sister and I would share with my mum and my brother with my dad and they'd fabricate reasons to be alone so they could have sex- it was grim so I'm wondering if in her head it's something like this?

It really would help to know whether she's 13 or 19 and whether this is her dad or step-dad.

He wouldn't be offended at all. More likely he'd think that was a bit gross and then forget about it and then joke about it himself later.

Just as long as you don't mind your teens bringing their boyfriend /girlfriend into the living room and snogging them on the couch beside you Olga.Cuts both ways

No it doesn’t here. Because I own the house and pay the bills, which makes me the boss. It’s not a democracy .

My 16 and 18 year old would grimace and continue on their phones i imagine.

They would not be 'raging' as they would know it wasn't serious.

Clearly there's more to this and their relationship is really bad.

Mine would laugh and not take it at all seriously!

He is her bio dad.
Their relationship is not great but it's hard for me to define exactly why.
Dd thinks dh is an oaf. She is 16. He can be really annoying etc but he is not as bad as she makes him out.