Thank you for the welcome back McMen71 genuinely fab to hear the positive news that things are so much better with you and yours [yay!] That's really great! 
And again, a warm welcome to all newcomers!
Thank you Tinkobell as ever, it is extremely comforting to be able to share on here and realise that the same pattern of exchanges are being played out in other households and not just ours! Very best of luck to your dc for their exams this week (and good luck to you too 
!) [Passes over tin hat.]
Huge sympathies Xerox with: "and worst of all he says it’s because his life is so shit living with us. Objectively this is nonsense but I can see he believes it and just moans all the time about how much he hates us 
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I know all the books say that it's no good arguing objectively, if they don't feel loved, or can't feel it perhaps, then there is no point banging on about how you go to great lengths to alter your life to accommodate their needs and wishes, and how much you adore them etc etc, because they can't comprehend it. But hell! How far down that rabbit hole are we supposed to go with them?
I know its outside of her experience but dd has a hugely better life than I did at her age. I don't want her to grow up thinking "oh woe is me" because frankly she is bloomin' privileged and I want her to appreciate that fact and yes, call me old-fashioned, show a smidgeon of gratitude. Anyway, material things aren't really the point here, she has had so much more attention and focus and time from me and dh than I did growing up. And yet "everything is crap" apparently, we are crap parents, and everything ( in comparison to her friends' lives) is crap. [sigh]
It's so damned depressing ... and yet, and yet, we're meant to model remaining upbeat, calm and relatively cheerful 
Here's hoping it is a very short phase MrsBlondie Not sure how much more I can stand atm tbh [stand] her attitude casts such a dark shadow over everything. And you have my total sympathy re: the harsh language. It is so bloody hurtful!
I know similar things have been said on this thread but I need to print out BettyBishop's wise words "For everyone experiencing sheer nastiness and vitriol, your children do not mean it I guarantee it. They are angry about something else but can’t express it effectively or politely- they love you and need you, at least that’s what I choose to believe" and stick it under my pillow". Hear hear to that! (And I hope things are calmer in your household soon.)
Glad you are feeling a bit better off the migraine meds Tarrara Thinking of your ds today! I hope he isn't too upset with exam stress 
And well done re: running!
Ledkr noted about reconciliation gestures!
Please don't feel awful MrsEffington you sound like such a wonderful mother You have recognised the issue and have sought help for your dd. I hope she will come through this experience stronger for it and you will be out of the tunnel soon
I hope this exam week is not too stressful in your household Fleetheart hang in there!
Oh you must feel so stressed and worried Neversaygoodbye 
. Remember you are doing your job by being there, holding on to the end of the rope, by worrying, by questioning, by arranging the therapy (glad to hear that is proving helpful btw) and yes, by being uncertain about how to help and what to do sometimes. We are only human. It's like teetering on a high wire sometimes isn't it (it's all about the " boingy thin line" as referenced by 8FenchingWire) ? One never knows if one is taking the right step or not. But that's all part of it I think. I think we need to accept that we are allowed to be uncertain and that we don't have all the answers. It's uncomfortable but that's how it is.
How are you RJnomore1 ? You are going through hellish times and I can't imagine how hard it must be for you and your dd. Glad to hear your dh is a good source of support but I hope you won't hesitate to reach out for more for yourself if you haven't done so already Oh and grrrrr to tosser bfs!
Fwiw Ledkr I think your solution to the holiday money conundrum is really wise and sensible.
Waves to Cobblersandhogwash, Mogloves Nutcutlet Billy Tickling Whattodoffs BigSandyballs and anyone else I have inadvertently missed! (So sorry if I have missed anyone out btw - can't scrolll very well on this particular device - and feel a bit muddled/foggy in my head today after such a stressful weekend!). Suffice to say, there is so much in all of these posts that I have been nodding away at and thinking "oh yes, we have that too" and "yes, that is so true"!
And last but definitely not least, Tinkobell you set a very good example to us all having acupuncture! We all need to do something similar (or equivalent) to protect ourselves from stress - as Billy says it's so easy to get consumed by trying to fix everything - and we forget ourselves in the process. Also, it's great to be able to vent about our teens' behaviour on here but it also would be good to focus on what we are doing for ourselves to combat the angst too!
Be kind to yourselves Po Ts!