14yr dd - i've just found drugs in her room

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I have just found 15 tablets hidden in dd's room. She had a party last weekend and one boy smuggled in ecstasy, and proceeded to hand it out like smarties. There was also weed, NOS balloons, alcohol and cigarettes. I'm presuming they have come from him, but can't be sure.

Never again!! I am gutted that this happened in my house and can't believe how many of dd's friends seem to partake in all this shit. They are only 14 ffs.

However, I have just had a look in dd's room and found these pills, which smell like weed tbh (but I don't know if weed comes in tablet form). Last time I snooped in her room and confronted her with something I found, she didn't come home for 4 days.

I feel sick and so, so scared of telling her I've looked again but after the party, and just her general behaviour, I felt I had to.

To all of you who think your dc would never do this shit, don't necessarily believe it! There were kids there who I would never have thought would.

I know I need to confront her but I feel sick

My 14 year old has never been to a house party either, they tend to dine in restaurants. I’m not being naive, I have to drop her off and pick her up or a few parents stay and we book a table the other side of the restaurant.

Wow the kids must think you’re a cool mum. My 14 yr old has never been to a house part, she has an invite once and i said a big fat no. She hated me for it but the next day she was ok and glad she hadn’t gone.

I would 100% go to the police with what you found. There are kids out there who think its ok to take drugs. Take control of things. Contact the parents you know and thell them what you found.

Imagine if you don’t. And one of those kids took drugs again (which is 100% likely) and something happens? Grab those kids by the balls and snitch.

My dd has been invited to two house parties (same age). One got really out of control, same as you.. Parents with a huge house, no supervision, I won't go into the details but let's say some girls called the parents in tears to pick them up as they were very uncomfortable.

The parents are lovely people but I think we're very naive, you need to supervise teenagers more than say 10 year old, not less....

Other parties have been fine, big Hall with a disco, I dropped off and picked up and didn't see anyone behaving strangely, I know a lot of the kids and I stood there chatting to them so I know.

I think the key is supervision.

As far as the drugs situation, I think that is a separate issue and it is worrying. I don't know what to advise but going back to supervision, I would take freedoms away but it also sounds like she needs a lot of professional support.

So, since the party, school have been informed there were drugs there and who supplied them.

The police and county safe guarding team are aware of those who took it (4 other girls and 1 boy I have since discovered).

All parents now know. The dealer (different guy to who I was told about) has been expelled for selling it on school premises, the girl who bought it from him suspended for a week. All others had isolation for a day each.

I am so glad. So pleased it's all out in the open and parents know what can happen and that their children took ecstasy.

Like I've said before. Never again!!

My god, you poor thing. Sounds like you’ve done everything right (since the party :)
Best of everything for you and your daughter, a lot of challenges to get through.

Glad the parents, school, police know OP

It's good that it came out. At least the children know not to expect parties to be like this in future.