Caught my DD watching porn!

[candicemerlot]

Hello mums! So my DD, 16, has a laptop. My DH has installed K9 Web Protection on her laptop, so this blocks certain things such as pornography, certain youtube videos with age filters, gambling, violence, drugs etc.
Now she had left her laptop downstairs the other day, and I went on it to search for some caravans as my laptop was upstairs. When I began to search it came up with a list of suggestions that were very x rated? I went on her history and she had been visiting sites like xhamster and pornmd and watching only what I can describe as 'hard' pornography? Now if she was 18, I would not care, but it's the fact she's underage and I do wonder if 16 is too young? I get that kids do things now out of curiosity, and I am a very liberal parent, but the material she had been watching is in no way suitable for a 16 year old.
Also, I do not understand how she got on to these sites as when I tried accessing them on her laptop it was saying it was blocked? Now I am not tech savvy like the modern kids, so I don't understand how she did this? I want to tell DH but don't want to worry him.

Please mums say this is a regular thing, just don't want my DD to grow up too fast!

should have said "before they could watch porn easily"

You're putting words in my mouth there, show.

Ketchup - we're all waiting patiently for you to post those links to the high quality research proving all your points about how healthy porn is.

A number of us have posted links to interviews and articles which support our point of view, but you don't seem to have done so.

of course porn is not healthy! Surely the fact that it isnt healthy is part of the attraction!

Sorry for your experiences, mogulfield and fartpants.

As we can see, even in this thread, it's getting harder and harder for people esp young women to voice their concerns about porn: much respect to those who do speak up.

Most porn isn't 'kink' - kink is mutual, both partners agree and respect each others boundaries.
That does NOT happen in porn.

titchy - I know what type of kink turns me on and I can assure you that I see it in porn -- a lot. Maybe we are visiting different porn sites?

Nothing to do with your daughter watching potn. Other factors are at play. Pointless putting that in.

Let me spell it out for you Budgie --the point is that watching porn does not necessarily damage a teen girl because, like you said, other factors come into play. Factors that include how confident a teen is and how stable her home is. I refer you back to the OP question.

I don't doubt you can find whatever kind of kink turns you on in porn.

I think titchy's point, however, was that you have no way of knowing whether what you see is mutual, consenting and respectful of boundaries.

Unless, I guess, the kink that turns you on is coercive sex and rape, and then I guess you may not care whether it's simulated or real.

misshelena - I sort of pity your naivete and am sort of in awe of it - that in the twenty-first century, with all the ways we have of reading up on and researching a topic, it is still possible to remain so resolutely blinkered.

Theonly --Even if we imagine the perfect world where there is zero trafficking, coersion, abuse, etc., just capitalism, the porn industry would still exist. Because the demand is HUGE.

Now if you have beef with free wheeling capitalism (as I do), that's a discussion for another thread.

Theonly Do not be so aggressively condescending. It's unbecoming.

Helena

Nowhere in the OP does the mother have concerns about her daughters academics. That's why I wrote what I wrote.

Even if we imagine the perfect world where there is zero trafficking, coersion, abuse, etc., just capitalism, the porn industry would still exist. Because the demand is HUGE.

But that isn't the reality - it's nowhere near. The vast majority of women in porn films are being abused and you really should accept that rather than bleating on about how you love your 'kink'.

"It's unbecoming", says the person defending how great porn is. 😂