Anyone want a mum of teenagers support thread 2

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Trying to create a new thread as we're almost full on the original one. Think we all agree the last thread was a huge support, and big thanks to Ledkr for starting it.

Let's continue to support and be kind to each other on here - all those going through challenging times with teens!

Haven't spoken to her yet. I don't want to say the wrong thing. I had a look on the BEAT website - it looks v useful.

Is she eating her main meals? Eating at school?
I would keep a close eye on her. I would be the same not knowing what to do for the best but I think I would say something to her like you heard her maybe say was you ill. Did something not agree with you?
I would check on her computer she isn't looking at any weight loss websites. Let me know what BEAT
Says. Good luck for her and you. X

I've finally asked the doctor for help for my anxiety which is 90% down to DS(16)'s behaviour.
I reached rock bottom again, just like last August. So I decided enough was enough and I've been put on Citalopram for the anxiety. I feel a bloody failure that I'm unable to cope with his moods and hold myself together at the same time. What a bloody useless mother I am.
And I can't tell DH I'm on tablets because he has no sympathy/understanding about this sort of thing and just says that I need to "lighten up and snap out of it"

DS is at this moment moping in his room because of so-called friends getting at him. He's very sad, and so am I.

Oh Hun. You are no way a failure you have done what you need to do to help calm your mind from all what is going on with DS.
Hope the tablets kick in asap for you and you get some relief from your anxiety. It's debilitating and well done you for going and doing something about it. We can only do and be there as much as we can with our teens.
Do you do excersise / classes / gym maybe this might help you too and also get into things you enjoy.
Going out with friends
You deserve to be happy. I would get out more though even if it is a class of some sort
What sort of things do you enjoy?
Do you go out with friends?
Not sure if you can take with your medication but Bach flower remedy is good for anxiety. All the very best for you. Tell yourself you are amazing! X

Hi guys. Just checking in here.
Well we're in the camp of dd is stressed. Some subjects sailing on through but others feeling the pressure! We say to her not to worry but it's all on her. She has course work for a gcse she needs to do by the end of this week which she's stressing about!!
Ugh is it May yet!!
How's everyone else's dd/ dd doing? X

Just checking in here. DD 17 and just split up with her bf. Her choice, but seems to be attracting the wrong sort of attention from other boys. Think she likes the attention, but wouldn't go sleeping around. But I worry constantly and really need tips on taking a step back. Not being quite so involved in her life and letter her make her own mistakes.

Can I join in here? I haven't been on mumsnet since my kids were babies but stumbled back here whilst finding myself at the end of my tether with ungrateful teenagers/pre teens! 16 year old DS moved in with Dad (I'm a single mum divorced 8 years) because we had an argument about him constantly beating crap out of 12 year old DS and 8 year old dd when they were both crying and I tried to calm him down he was screaming in my face to F off and trying to push me out of his room. Phoned ex h for support but should have known he would turn it against me and pick ds up with a I know what your mother is like and now they are best buds when he had his GCSEs in a matter of weeks and dad lives miles away from school - he isn't even talking to me. Ds2 has been on report since starting year 7 and just speak ms to everyone with such an attitude - seriously fed up of being spoke to like crap and the lack of respect. Bedrooms are disgusting and as for chores if I ask them to load the dishwasher you should see the attitude on them! Worried it's rubbing off on 8 year old dd who this morning threw a box of cheerios over kitchen floor as she slammed them down in protest at being told to get ready for school and stop faffing with her iPod.

Reading the above has helped my sanity as been in a mess the last few days questioning if I am really cut out for motherhood!

Hi May I join? We have a DD 16- busy stressing about gcse's due in May,also suffers badly from anxiety and low self esteem due to bullying. Dd often spends a lot of time alone due to friends cancelling their arrangements with her which breaks my heart to see her sad and she says I want to spend time with friends not us,which h I totally get. Does anyone ever feel a total failure and wish they'd done things slightly different? Thank you x

Can I join have a 13 year old DS and 12 year old DD just on the cusp of it and it's awful.
DS is bright but extremely and thoughtless. His moods alternate from being the perfect well mannered helpful loveliest son imaginable to the surliest, grumpiest, nastiest, argumentative so and so. Then he's singing, asking if I would like a drink then crying and saying I hate him and calling me a bitch etc.
DD is 12 ok at the moment but had her moments a few months ago.

I dont know if I can do this any more. DS17 is a brat - Im fed up of walking on eggshells around him, of his violent temper, of feeling unsafe in my own home. Multiple instances of police involvement, now a threatening letter from a legal company and civil action for shoplifting.

His room is a tip, he is rude and defiant, does nothing around the house, feels entitled to everything. WOnt do his own laundry, nothing done for over a month, there are 6 smelly towels in his room.

He's had jobs but they never last long - he currently has (?) a job working 4hours a week, but he keeps bunking off so I wouldnt be surprised if he loses this one.

He's dropped out of college.

He steals from everyone - even his pensioner granny and younger siblings. At night we have to hide the car keys and our wallets, as he steals both. (He has no drivers license. He is not insured.) He has been caught shoplifting several times, and I had to bail him out after he stole a load of money from his last job. Needless to say he lost the job.

We organised private therapy for him, he went once, and then didn't show up for the next two, so has been dropped - leaving me to foot the bill for the missed sessions.

He lies all the time, telling me whatever he thinks I want to hear. He is involved with Youth Support, but he lies to them too.

Today he started swearing at me and pushing me around. I threatened him with the police if he touched me again. He punched the glass door twice - fortunately not breaking anything.

Ive told him to leave. Now Im scared for my boy, but I cannot live like this any more.

DH is all "you need to be calm, you need to stop escalating everything" - but he leaves the house at 7am and isnt home until 7pm and DS rules the roost through fear and intimidation while dad is away.