oh God my daughter is the most boring person I know

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

Seriously, her only topics of conversation for the past three years have been

1. herself

and

1. how awful a mother I am and how unlucky she is to have me for a mother.

First I was bemused, then I was hurt, now I am bored. She's been like this since 14.

it's BORING!!!!!

She never asks me a question about myself, never discusses anything, comments on anything in the news or places she's been or books she's read - nothing - it's just all about her (or awful me)

Sympathy anyone?

perfectly coherent bollocks sir

1. The OP didn't say she was the most boring person she knew.

1. I doubt that the OP would say anything to her DD about how boring she finds her.

What a load of total nonsense. Sorry but I can't take it seriously.

I thought you would appreciate bollocks - it seems to be your language. No point in my speaking to you in any other way.

1. The OP didn't say she was the most boring person she knew.

it's the title of the thread. it says exactly that.

2. I doubt that the OP would say anything to her DD about how boring she finds her.

I never suggested she would.

1. So it is.

1. imagine if you had overheard your parent telling someone they thought you were the most boring person they knew So a moot point then?

Talking of moot points, exactly what is your point? You don't like what the OP said. OK, we get that. Do you have anything of any meaning or anything constructive to say?

She is a teenager.

I hope she doesn't see this thread. Nasty way to talk about her.

OP I can remember being like your DD! It just was the way I was - just totally self-absorbed and all about me me me... My friends were the same really. We all grew out of it in the end so give her time!

I remember thinking that how I was, was normal and then talking to some work colleagues who chose to go on holiday with their families when they were in their late teens and being baffled when I was baffled by them! So it takes all sorts I guess.

DiaDuit what an unpleasant, vicious post. Made me flinch and it wasn't even aimed at me!

DiaDuit, when you've had a couple of years of it, maybe you will be able to understand.

hmm

I've raised a teenager. but er, thanks.

WELL, it's like childbirth then I guess. Clearly you forget. Your lack of sympathy for people going through it now is really nethunish. So DiaDuit? Pog mo hon more like.

Although looking back on it, I don't really remember talking to my parents about anything at all, I more or less ignored them, unless they were telling me not to do something, in which case it was was not a happy conversation.

Hmmm.

So on that basis, and aside from the whole boredom thing, at least you are talking to each other!

I get the YT stuff -yawn. Or she comes in from school, says barely 2 words and disappears upstairs ...
I have been reading the same books (Hunger games, divergent, Percy Jackson etc)- so I get the jokes etc and we have something to talk about ...but she has just had a strop and said I am NOT ALLOWED to read any books she reads anymore. I'm just trying to be young etc etc. (If you knew me you would realise why that is funny...)
I pissed myself laughing ...(and part of me thought great! I can read what I really want to ...)
I did try and explain how unreasonable she was being and that I wouldn't get some of the funny things she told me/showed me anymore if I hadn't read the book...and she seemed to accept that.
Then she was watching a Percy Jackson dvd and I saw some of it and said that isn't like the book ...and she had a mini tantrum
Then later told me it was nothing like the book etc...and wanted to talk about it.
It is an absolute roller coaster ...but I think you just have to try and keep your sense of humour and be honest and not take it to heart ...not let it get to you.

" imagine if you had overheard your parent telling someone they thought you were the most boring person they knew So a moot point then?"

you said you doubted the OP would say anything to her daughter, how is that the same as the DD overhearing the OP saying to someone?

Talking of moot points, exactly what is your point? You don't like what the OP said. OK, we get that. Do you have anything of any meaning or anything constructive to say?

my point has been said and explained. I am responding to posts directed at me. if you don't wish me to engage with you, don't direct any comments at me. or did you expect to address comments at me and me not respond?

So a no then.

cristalle thóin

My eldest is at the start of his teens and is exactly like this about 95% of the time - a sense of humour appears to be necessary! I suppose having a toddler, a teen and one approaching puberty at high speed is giving me an education in keeping things light at the moment..
DH has said quite seriously that DS should aim to be a lawyer after University - he could argue that the sky is made of grass and make a person believe it! (As long as he could back it up on YT)

That is so funny unlucky83, I was only allowed to read the mockingjay after dd. Not before. But then when I had read it after she read it, I couldn't offer up any opinion on it. My having an opinion seems to seriously threaten her. It's weird. I guess that's a self-esteem thing but she does drama, she's clever, I encourage her to make some decisions, to do (safe0 things) on her own. It is a rollercoaster, indeed. I know I'm not the OP (she's probably left because of the antics upthread) but when it goes on for years, it's hard to have a sense of humour all the time.

I find one of the hardest things is forgetting and moving on after they've just dished up some really hurtful comment, or some vile behaviour - and then after they've slammed a few doors they're ready for a hug while you're still smarting. How many times have I said "I love you too, darling" through gritted teeth?!

Change your screen name to pog mo Thoín then, as it would be a more accurate indication of your level of compassion. DiaDuit means God be with you not Bored Argumentative Bitch be with you.

SirChenjin, yeah, and you have to move on at their pace. I was struggling to forgive my dd's antics from last night first thing this morning. I coughed it up, just, but it was through gritted teeth all right.

SitChenjin oh yes! DS does the stampy foot no one understands me you are the most boring person alive thing then still wants tucking up on bed at night
Teenagers are a breed all of their own.

at you 'educating' me on what my username means.

and I suppose you're actually a bottle of perfume?

They are indeed - they're like great big toddlers in huge bodies at times

Why don't you leave this thread? Seriously. Ask yourself what you're contributing. If you've raised a teen then you're no spring chicken. So just ask yourself what you're bringing to the table, belittling people going through this now, telling them they're boring, their boring apples didn't fall far from the tree etc. Would it kill you to be a bit nicer? Maybe so. I know there are some horrors of human beings out there who just don't properly get that there are people with real dilemmas behind these threads. It's just a sport right. Picking holes in people's problems, you probably enjoy it. Got a bit of a buzz correcting my Irish spelling did you? . Dish it out with a wink . Maybe I'm a boring tree and my daughter is a boring apple, but you lack empathy and you lack judgement. And I hope your 'apple' is kinder than you are.

you know if you hadn't addressed another post to me I wouldn't have had anything to respond to. you should have taken a leaf from sir's book and stopped engaging with me. but you kept addressing comments to me and then expecting me not to respond. odd logic. anyway I wasn't the poster who mentioned apples and trees. yeah, I enjoyed correcting your irish, probably not as much as you enjoyed attempting to tell me to kiss your arse though so watch that glass house you're throwing stones from. my opinion about the OP's post may not be popular but I stand by it and I think OP was nasty in her thread and OP. I'm not going to be bullied off a thread for having a not so commonly shared opinion. I've made my point and explained it. if you don't get it then that's your luck out, it wasn't difficult to understand. i'll leave, happily, but I will defend myself and respond to any comments directed at me so don't whinge if you do that and I respond.

I think that would be for the best Dia.