oh God my daughter is the most boring person I know

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

Seriously, her only topics of conversation for the past three years have been

1. herself

and

1. how awful a mother I am and how unlucky she is to have me for a mother.

First I was bemused, then I was hurt, now I am bored. She's been like this since 14.

it's BORING!!!!!

She never asks me a question about myself, never discusses anything, comments on anything in the news or places she's been or books she's read - nothing - it's just all about her (or awful me)

Sympathy anyone?

OMG - SirChen- my teenage boy does exactly the same thing!!! He can argue for the world. And I seem to spend so much time watching You Tube vids (against my will)!! He is a kind, thoughtful, loving boy, but I so wish he'd put all that argumentative energy into his school work

I'm a reg poster- been here 6 years and waaay too old for school holidays to affect me. You'll have to try another way to invalidate my opinion

Dude, harsh post, stop being you've been here long enough to do better.

Diaduit, what a nasty snide unsympathetic comment. It must be nice for you to have such interesting children.

OP, you have nothing but sympathy from me. My dd is not boring to her friends (I don't think, although one of them did come right out and tell her that she was obsessed with lip balms - which is true). Her selfishness astounds me regularly. I think I operate in denial because if I analysed all the proof of her selfishness it would just hurt me so much.

I hope one day she emerges from this wormhole.

Again, coherently maybe this time?

How about - your opinion is just shite, Diaduit?

Thank god other posters have this with Youtube!! What is it with teenage boys and bloody YT facts?? My heart sinks when I hear the words "Mum, have you seen this on YT, there's a bloke in America, right...."

And yes, Hot - it does get worse, and yes, Evans, less studying of YT and more of the school books would definitely not go amiss here either

Okay, then - apologies. However, still not a very helpful post!
Rather spiteful, in fact, if you are, indeed a responsible adult. Double wink

Well, given that I'm not sure whether that comment is directed at me or at somebody else, or, whether it was you or somebody else that was incoherent the first time around, perhaps you could be a bit more coherent?

what a nasty snide unsympathetic comment. It must be nice for you to have such interesting children.

Really? So its fine for OP to say her DD is boring and has nothing interesting to say but not ok for someone to suggest that maybe OP is also dull and has nothing her daughter wants to hear? Why is if not ok to suggest this? Its entirely possible this girl has no interest in her mother and chooses to talk to her friends instead. It isnt unheard of amongst teens. Nor is it unheard of for some adults to be dull.

In my YT induced anger I forgot the

Maybe you should look at your own sentence construction before poking holes in other peoples posts.

How about - your opinion is just shite, Diaduit?

Your opinion could be right. Or it could be just an opinion.

Nor is it unheard of for some adults to be dull

Oh, the delicious irony

Sorry - my post above was meant for Diaduit. Posts moved on much quicker than I expected!

I forgot the mean. Sorry.

"Nor is it unheard of for some adults to be dull

Oh, the delicious irony"

I'm wounded.

Oh mean? Ok that makes more sense.

I wasnt trying to be mean. I was being serious. Its possible OP herself is boring and her DD just doesnt find her interesting to talk to (just like OP doesnt find her dd interesting, right?) we cant always like the people we have no choice but to live with, sad as that may be but it happens.

Oh dear how sad never mind.

So she finds her so dull to talk to that she considers the only mutual thing they have in common is herself and things she wants, so is just desperately trying to get along?

Which is uncommonly similar to "me, me, me", selfish teen phase?

I think it is really nasty to say oh God my daughter is the most boring person I know.

Maybe she's fed up of her brother being The Golden Child?

Do you tell her she's wrong/selfish/being silly whenever she does speak?

How often do you tell her how great she is?

I remember DS1 following me around with his laptop to show me clips from American shows about which i knew absoloutely nothing until I just wanted to kill him.

Off topic but Pagwatch did you know there is a poster called pigwitch? Made me squint when I saw it on small screen

Op doesnt say the dd talks about things she wants. That was another poster. The DD talks about herself (everyone ive ever met has talked about themselves) and how awful her mother is. We have no idea whether she has good reason to believe her mother is awful so cant say if that's fair or not.

The thing about forums (especially ones like MN) is that people can pop on here and bounce thoughts and ideas. People can respond (hopefully, helpfully). If someone comes on to say they think their daughter is being a madam, because maybe they don't have any real life support network to ask advice from, then I think it's a nice thing to be able to do, especially if posted in the right areas. As in this one, which was specifically posted in "Teenagers". Parents of other teenagers are then able to sympathise or advise accordingly. It can be done without malice, if you try!!
The question wasn't posed in AIBU, so nasty comments need not apply!!

Hmm, is there Snice?

I'll keep an eye out. Ta.

It might not be a popular thing to say, but, with the best will in the world, most teenagers are still children at heart. You think they have (or should have) an awareness of the wider world, and perhaps they do, but they still see it very much through their own selfish eyes. Little children aren't expected to think much beyond themselves, and I think teens are the same. Sympathies OP. She'll grow up.

And yes, I have 3 teens whose world seems to revolve around Youtube. What would they do without it to entertain them and 'inform' their opinions?