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Would you let your daughter go to this party?

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MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:09

Don't know if I'm being overprotective! DD, 13, has been invited to a party by a girl she claims is 'one of her best friends' but in reality she has been shopping with once. I haven're met the girl and she doesn't go to DD's school. I insisted DD showed me the Facebook invite, transpires it is a house party and around 200 kids seen to have been invited. No clue on supervision from adults and no way to find out. Invite also says 'bring your own drink' which could be innocuous...but then again. We are leaning heavily towards 'm way' cue one very unhappy teen which I can't bear. Opinions please?

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Original poster
MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:10

*leaning heavily towards 'no way' I mean!

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Pennies · 10/04/2014 16:10

I'd ask the parents about it before I let my DD go.

Philoslothy · 10/04/2014 16:11

I would talk to the parents. I would also be leaning towards no.

TheZeeTeam · 10/04/2014 16:11

No. She's 13 and it says, 'Bring your own drink'.

RedandChecker · 10/04/2014 16:12

Bring your own drink definitely means alcohol Grin
200 kids that's insane? If try and find out about supervision. It doesn't sound like there is any I can't think of any sane parent who would want 200 kids in their house.
I wouldn't let her go I don't think, but if you do - I would be dropping her off and picking up at agreed times

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MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:13

Can't talk to the parents...no contact details and don't know them...worrying in itself

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guineapig2014 · 10/04/2014 16:13

No way. She may be unhappy about it but I wouldn't let my dd go at her age.

LaurieFairyCake · 10/04/2014 16:14

Not a chance.

Pennies · 10/04/2014 16:15

Then absolutely no.

KepekCrumbs · 10/04/2014 16:15

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DramaAlpaca · 10/04/2014 16:17

Definitely not.

Florin · 10/04/2014 16:17

Not a chance would I say yes

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MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:19

Thanks folks. I think it has to be a no and glad I'm not being over the top (which she thinks I am!)

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Marcipex · 10/04/2014 16:23

Only if I was going too.

glucose · 10/04/2014 16:24

Nope.

ExcuseTypos · 10/04/2014 16:26

You don't know the parents
You can't contact the parents
There's 200 teenagers going
They are all taking drink

My answer would be Not in a million years.

JustAboutAdeqeuate · 10/04/2014 16:29

Not a hope in hell. That party has all the hallmarks of ending up as the one from this thread.

TalisaMaegyr · 10/04/2014 16:30

I had this last year with my 15 year old - only the parents were going to be in Thailand Shock She was really pissed off that I wouldn't let her go, but it was a very similar situation and there was no way she was going. She did hate me for a bit. I care not.

AlpacaYourThings · 10/04/2014 16:31

Not a chance! That sounds like the parties that end up in the newspapers and the parents weren't even aware.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 10/04/2014 16:32

200 kids, bringing their own drink? No, I would not let my teenager go to a party on those terms - it sounds like a recipe for disaster.

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MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:32

Oh Jesus just read the other thread!! Poor parents!

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sisterofmercy · 10/04/2014 16:34

I agree with the other posters. it sounds like a recipe for disaster and I don't think the friend's parents even know about it.

jellyhead · 10/04/2014 16:34

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MaryRose · 10/04/2014 16:36

Oh Jesus just read the other thread!! Poor parents!

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gamerchick · 10/04/2014 16:37

I really would try and warn the parents if I could. Or ring nth local police station forwarning them there's an underage house party going ahead at 'this' property and the numbers expected. They may pay it a visit early on before the house gets trashed.

And no, not a chance In hell of letting the bairn go.