Would you let your daughter go to this party?

[MaryRose]

Don't know if I'm being overprotective! DD, 13, has been invited to a party by a girl she claims is 'one of her best friends' but in reality she has been shopping with once. I haven're met the girl and she doesn't go to DD's school. I insisted DD showed me the Facebook invite, transpires it is a house party and around 200 kids seen to have been invited. No clue on supervision from adults and no way to find out. Invite also says 'bring your own drink' which could be innocuous...but then again. We are leaning heavily towards 'm way' cue one very unhappy teen which I can't bear. Opinions please?

Is say no, but wondered if you could do something nice with her on the night of the party instead?

IME saying "I can't come I'm going to the cinema" is better received than "I can't come my mum won't let me"

Well, after it all came out about the Dad offering to buy them alcohol etc even DD realises this is not the best idea and fortunately now doesn't want to go and is even speaking to me again :) I shall watch with interest what happens though, if other parents get wind of it I wouldn't think many kids would be allowed to go!!! The girl whose party is put a FB message out last night saying if kids wanted to drink their parents had to message him to let him know they are allowed. Guess that's his idea of responsible supervision!!!!

The Dad is offering to buy booze for his 13 year old daughter's friends if they give him the money.
I'd report him to the police.

The law doesn't ordinarily expect an adult to be off to the shops to supply a posse of thirteen year old with whatever their poison is that's why these two apply;

*It is against the law

1. To sell alcohol to someone under 18 anywhere.
2. For an adult to buy or attempt to buy alcohol on behalf of someone under 18.*

If money anywhere exchanges hands then deranged Dad/Mum is legally culpable.

If they choose to have enough booze in their house to supply umpteen teenies for free then that's their look out. Especially when the parents of said teenies start knocking the front door re drunken children

Are you sure this is for real? A girl at DD's school put a party invite out like this last year, said her mother was going to provide £300 worth of alcohol, invited over a hundred people. Then cancelled a couple of days before party date with strange totally unbelievable excuse as to why party could not now go ahead. She'd made the whole thing up for 'popularity' and for the couple of weeks that everyone was talking about the 'party' she loved basking in all the attention. She looked pretty stupid once everyone realised what she'd done and it turned out she'd never even asked her parents if she could have a party because she knew they'd say no.

No it's definitely for real unfortunately. Apparently the invitation has now been modified to invite less people- a bit late for that though!!!

No it's definitely for real unfortunately. Apparently the invitation has now been modified to invite less people- a bit late for that though!!!

At 13 def not! Sounds like a recipe for disaster if I'm honest! DD's nearly 16 and I have heard horror stories from parties that she has been at (thankfully not involving her though) and let me tell you unless you want phone calls and trips to A&E at all hours then it'd be a big no. These parents sound ridiculous and horrifyingly irresponsible, I agree with other posters about reporting the father, he should not be supplying alcohol to children, not only is it morally wrong but i'm pretty sure it is illegal too. It would be a definite no from me.