oy vey, ds1, the GF and the miscarriage

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dd was looking through ds1 moby messages and found a msg from his gf saying it was a miscarriage. now whether or not this happened - dont know - can't approach him or dd will never forgive me

i'm fast coming to the point of asking to have a chat with her mother - who is nice - we've been out she's ok - and not telling about supposed miscarriage but telling her they are having sex and perhaps she needs to think about taking her little girl to doctors for some contraception - i hae talks with ds about using a condom - and buy them for him - its as much as i can do.

what do you lot think?

Custy - have you recovered from Friday yet? How did Monday go, better than Friday I hope. Ending up doing everything yourself is how it works in this household too.

An update from me, I am afraid I have decided not to talk to the gf or her parents. During their brief relationship they have already split up twice and I suddenly realised I would have to talk to all his girl friends. I can't face that, I'll just have to rely on condoms. And make sure he has some strong ones, not the rubbish from pub vending machines.

I snoop in his wallet when he leaves it lying around and I know he carries a condom, and they aren't the brand I bought. No apologies for snooping, I have to know what is going on. I am just glad I failed miserably to get him to be tidy.

Let us know how you got on - you have my admiration and deep donw I wonder if I should be adopting your approach.

Hey Custy - how's it going? Saw you sticking up for me on that thread - I was in Lourdes for the weekend trying to exorcise ds! So thanks for that mate!
You know, when I move back, anytime you need me I'll be down there like a flash! Wish I could have been there for you this last weekend, we could have gone out and got ratfaced together and moaned our heads off about dh's and kids and stuff!
Can't wait to do that anyway!
xxx

oh thanks for asking after me, makes me feel ded wanted. ta v. much.

will update later.

want update NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sorry miserable ginger bastard made mi tea.

errrr, nowt to say really. havent seen them. so theres no update on the contraception front.

i think i have done what i can. and i can live with that.

and have made it clear theres gonna be no babies in theis house - i dont do babysitting.

and i told DH i will insist on being called grandma. that is becuase grandmas apart from traditionally being paternal grandparents - are usually no so cuddly. Nannas are cuddly and lovely grandmas are stand offish and a bit rubbish - fobbing you off with 50p

Evening custardo, tahnks for the update. I have been thinking about you. I assume you don't know if the gf got her implant on Monday? I think you have worked wonders, I don't know what more you could do.

Think I'll push the morning-after pill here. Make sure ds makes her (physically if necessay) take one if he is aware of any condom failure. Odd to think that at 16 he may already have had more sexual partners than me, though that doesn't take much doing.

We have grandmas in this family too, well Granny anyway. Not very fierce, but not particularly cuddly either. Actually not very interested in their grand children but at least that meant they didn't interfere. A few hefty cheques wouldn't have gone amiss though

my granny used to give me a bar of chocolate - those big bars. then slag my mum off.

then she got ganggreen, had both her legs amputated and then died, and i wasnt right sad to tell you the truth.

back to topic, think were on the same page Q, you can only do so much.

may i update you, well becuse you were so very good to me and i really do appreciate it.

today i was on the train when GF mum phoned and asked if my ds could accompany her dd to doctors becuase she was getting the implant - it was her way of telling me things were getting serious but trying to tell me it was about periods.

this is being done next wednesday - something to do with when the period is due to end or sommat - i dont know.

i cooed to GFmum how nice it was that her DD could talk to her about stuff.

it was a nice conversation and all is sorted -

thank the fucking lord - no babies for three years.

and if he thinks he's ever leaving he's another thing coming!

am pleased hun.

ta chuck!

well done, you've done briliantly! Everybody's happy and no one is in the dark, no one being deceived. You couldn't hope for more really.

Think my ds has broken up with the gf so no action required here as far as I know at the moment. At least she hasn't been in eveidence for a few days now and she is normally around at the weekend. My intuition is usually reliable but I won't enquire for a few days - I have to pretend to be a bit thick otherwise it pisses him off.

Good result Custardo - hope your boy realises what a favour you've done him in the long run!

ta! its a big weight off i can tell you

pmsl@ pretend to be a bit thick!

pmsl, OK, so I'm not pretending