does anyone have grown up children still living at home and wish them to fly the nest?

[Chatelaine]

So so difficult to phrase this correctly! Bear with me please. Grown up son of 22 has returned after living subsidised on his own for 3 years. He has moved back due to giving up uni/relationship break up et al. So far so good. DS has a home, opportunity blah blah for fresh start... Then we find he brings home a young lady to stay overnight that is now staying almost every night without a word to his parents. This is the difficult bit, we state what our rules and standards are, he more or less ignores it, but is not unpleasant, just laid back. So frustrating. He has the ability to support himself so no worries on that score except that he has no incentive to leave a comfortable home. He needs his own place to do his own thing so we don't have to see it iyswim. If you have experience of this situation I need to hear it to regain perspective. Happy New Year.

My sister is still at home she is nearly 30 just saying
I think you need to say something to him if he wants to have women home he needs to get his own place if you are not happy about it , MY friends 19 yr old would bring a different girl home every weekend , sometimes a different girl friday then saturday, she would go downstairs to sleep on the sofa because the erm noise was keeping her awake and she was very the boy had no shame , he has since moved out she just told him he either stopped bringing them home or moved out ,

I cannot wait until my adult ds leaves home for good. I've tried every which way to encourage him to go but the message doesn't seem to reach his brain. Life is not worth living with him around. He criticises everything I say, think and do. It has got to the stage that I do not want to go anywhere if he is around...he even criticises how I drink a cup of tea. Oh to have a quiet calm peaceful life.

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