Have found a completely naked picture of DS1s GF on his phone. What now?

[Goober]

She is proper starkers!
Have quizzed him as to whether or not they have had sex, he says no.
Have confescated phone and laptop.
Spoke to him at length about how wrong it is.
Told GFs mum.
Now what.

No you aren't Pixie.

That Channel 4 SEx Education show had a segment on this, and how they would both be breaking the law by sharing sexually explicit material under 16. See if you can find it on 4OD and maybe watch that to begin discussions on why this is a bad idea.

Agree they shouldn't be punished if its all consensual, but some understanding of the consequences if a friend/teacher/anyone else sees it, what happens if they split up, etc etc would be good, as well as making sure they fully understand all the implications, physical, legal and emotional, of sex at this age.

It's going to be an uncomfortable conversation for them, but frankly if she feels she's adult enough to send him or let him take that photo, and he feels adult and open enough to have it as his screensaver, then they need to be adult and open enough to have a sensible discussion about it.

molly, really?

so I am commiting a criminal offence too then

how is one item of clothing pornagraphic and a smiliar item isnt???

Child porn ! Over reacting surely? I agree it is disrespectful for this photo to be used as his screen saver. I'd be livid if he was showing it to mates.

I have naked pics of all my children. That is MY children not somebody elses.

dragonfly68 I have no idea and the whole room was stunned into silence by that revelation.

and actually....i think the way you dealt with this,the humiliation,is abusive and damaging!

I don't necessarily agree with the law as it stands. I just wanted to point out that this was an issue and these kids should be aware of it for their own protection.

No. You misunderstod my post. I'll say again. You are not committing a criminal offence. Don't be ridiculous.

I think it would be the girl who could be seen as distributing child porn, she is underage and sending nudie pics, I think they should just talked to and the girl really should be made fully aware how these pics could get into the wrong hands, as for your son, well my son would have been like a dog with two, had he had a pic like that of his girlfreind at 15.

If I was her mum I would be upset at my daughter for not having more common sense.

This girl sent this photo willingly to her boyfriend, what she hasn't considered is what happens if or when this boy is no longer her boyfriend.

He could easily post the photo on FB etc which I would imagine would be humilating for her. She is leaving herself open to all sorts of problems by sending these sort of photos out.

For what its worth I think amoung teenagers its quite common, but girls (and boys if they are sending them as well) need educating about the potential risks.

(op I am saying your son would do the above, I am just saying this is a potential danger)

I would be concerned about this. If he has the photograph as a screen saver his friends have almost certainly seen it. They quite possibly already have a copy of it. I'd want him to delete the photograph and ask him if he has forwarded any copies. It's up to the girl's mother to find out from her who else she has sent the photo to. I would have a conversation with him about contraception and STDs.
I'm not surprised the girl's mother is beside herself. She has obviously realised that half the school may have seen it already.

"MollysChambers Tue 31-Aug-10 14:26:00
She is underage. To be in possession of nude photos of her would be regarded as a criminal offence"

Pixie - I am by no means an expert on child pornography laws. I'm afraid I can't answer that question re your friends child. I would imagine though that there is a sexual element to the OP's sons photo of his GF. That is the difference. Surely just common sense. Can't really see why your getting your knickers in a twist to be honest.

Haha, yy they must be mortified! I think at that age it's totally normal to experiment, I bet I'd've done similar if the technology had been around (thank Cod it wasn't!)

IMO the best tactic (although tbh I think you've blown it a bit) would be to laugh and wave it around, showing DH too - he knows if it's on his phone as a bloody screensaver that everyone will see it, he needs to know that he can't pick and choose who sees it though and the possible consequences.

And maybe a contraceptive chat 15 isn't a bad age to have sex for the first time in a stable relationship imo

More seriously though, yes she has left herself very open to becoming a laughing stock or worse, the pic needs deleting and quick.

Has your son sent the photo onto any of his friends? Has she even considered he could have? There is a lot of sharing of these kinds of photos.

BTW the poster who thinks all kids are having sex at 15? I think you are actually making things harder for young people not easier. Not all kids are even seriously experimenting at that age, however if they really think everyone else is it is harder to say no until they are ready.

what bythemoonlight said. If this was my son or daughter I would be concerned for the same reasons

also, i think we all knew of someone at school who sent a naked photo (which would have been in print in the old days ) and then said image got circulated. It used to be cruel then, let alone now with more avenues to explore with respect to humiliation

OP - I think the best thing you can do now is take your son to one side and admit that maybe you over reacted but you were a bit shocked to see what you saw. And tell him why you were shocked. It won't harm him to know that you still (obviously) think of him as 'your little boy' and hopefully that way he'll be able to confide in you in the future.

I certainly wouldn't wave it around laughing and showing other people!