Is my partner taking drugs?

[Worriedpartner1]

I know that my partner used to take drugs on a regular basis, such as on nights out, in his previous relationship. As far as I'm aware he hasn't while with me (2 years). I have never taken or bought drugs myself to know if I'm worrying that he's going to be buying/taking drugs for nothing as I know he struggled to stop taking them last time.

He has messages on his phone with a man where he has asked this man to "sort him a larl en out", the man says he only has 40s now and my partner says that will do because he won't manage all day just drinking because he hasn't been out drinking for a while.

Does this sound like he's buying drugs?

You're having his child and that still wasn't enough to keep him away from it. Well done you on doing the right thing.

Hope it went ok for you Op, you can get drug tests on amazon, my partner is an ex cocaine user, if he takes it once it will become a regular thing, my partner can't go out for this reason or drink!

He has told me hasn't taken any drugs and he didn't buy them in the end. He came home at 7pm so lasted 7 hours out, however he didn't come home to me as I wouldn't let him. He's still not back in the house but telling me all the right things (as they do). I am thinking about a drug test but I wasn't sure how long cocaine stayed in your system to show up. However, I also will never trust him to go out drinking again for the sole reason that I'll be worrying whether he is taking drugs. I don't want to live a life like this and I'm sure he doesn't want to live a life with someone breathing down his neck and not able to trust him either.

Hi OP. It doesn't really matter whether he didn't go through with buying it this time though does it? He absolutely would have bought some and used it if you hadn't confronted him.

As you said, worrying every time he says he's going out is no way for you to live.

I'm sorry.

The only reason he didn't go through with it was that he got caught.

Respecting your values and preserving the security of your soon to be growing family was not enough of an incentive for him to stay away from his dealer.

For yours and your children's sake do not let this excuse for a man back in your life.

4th thread in as many days that I've read of someone already a parent moving in with a new partner very quickly.

In this case someone who admitted to regular use of hard drugs in his recent history and who has now been proven to still be using them.

Why? I genuinely don't understand why women keep taking this risk with new men.

Op I am vehemently anti drugs and hard drinking myself, I wouldn't have even continued the relationship from when he first told me he'd EVER taken them especially as a mother

Good you're getting rid but please in future don't rush into relationships

It's actually pretty irrelevant if he did or didn't use THIS TIME he's lied to you for 2 years and he's a drug user do yourself and your kids a favour and stop pandering to him.