Hi
I have spent my last 2 evening in A&E with dh who needed 3 stitches in hiss finger after unsuccessfully trying to prise too-frozen ice-cream out of it's carton with a knife , and ds2 who fell in the playground and thought he'd broken an ankle but it was just sprained
Families, eh. I haven't spoken to my father in about 17 years. My parents spilt up when I was 4, and he was not exactly father of the year. His fuckwittedness hugely contributed to the eating disorder I suffered all through my teens and early 20s, but then when I had therapy I felt really empowered to say 'Enough'. I could find him in 2 phone calls, but I have no desire to. He had his chance to be a good father and he blew it. It sounds very harsh written down in balck and white but that's how I feel. I know if he was in my life he would cause me stress and anxiety, so he's not. I did spend a lot of time grieving for the father I wanted to have, and I am envious of friends with lovely dads, but that's life. It would be lovely for the dc to have a nice grandad, but my mum is a fab granny so they are happy with that. Dhs parents are shockingly dysfunctional as parents and grand-parents also, but I think that's one reason we work hard at being the best parents we can be to our dc - because we don't want them to turn out like us
I know I have missed loads on the thread, but Whelk I feel so, so sad for your friends dss, I hope they get lots of professional help to come to terms with what has happened. It is hard enough for an adult to understand, let alone for a child.
Bunjies I totally understand you, my ds is 12 and has one more year in primary before making the move to a school 5 times the size of the one he is in now, it's a scarey time. Do what you can to nurture the friendships with the football boys, once he has time to get used to the idea of the move i'm sure he'll be ok.
Hells no ideas on what to wear for a night out, must work on my social life. Dcs on the other hand live in a social whirl of parties, trips and playdates - I am rather