I love navy and black. And navy and charcoal, navy and cream, navy and pale pink, navy and chocolate..... Love navy really Black near my face does nothing for me, but navy is great for my very pale complexion.
Everything I feel for you, I really do. I've been there. Dh and I have been together since uni, 19 years We go through phases but we're in a pretty good place at the moment. But last summer we went through an awful time when I would truely have loved to call it a day. The thing is dh and I both come from divorced backgrounds and that is the glue that holds us together, that we would never want that for our dc. So we just work through whatever needs to be worked through, as hard as that is.
A real turning point for me has been accepting that dh is not everything that I want him to be, but you know, noone is perfect. Sadly I'm a total romantic, and would love to be maried to Prince Charming, I'd love dh to be decisive and make romantic gestures, and be spontaaneous, and I could go on, but that's just not who he is. He's a good guy, a good dad, not perfect but neither am I.
We had some real issues last year with his (highly dysfunctional)family. I expected him to step in and sort it all out, but he didn't, leaving me very hurt and angry. After a lot of thinking I concluded that it wasn't that he didn't want to confront his family, he just couldn't. Once I accepted that, I took control of the situation, and that has been so liberating for both of us. He's off the hook and I get to kick ass!
We are lucky our dc are older now, 5, 9 and 12. When they were younger, life was hard for me, I was the one who coped with years of sleepless nights, tantrums, fussy eating, and all that stuff while dh's life went on pretty much as before. It's hard not to feel resentful of that. That stage passes though, and the thing is, that young as they are, my dc know that I'm the one who put in all the time and they love me all the more for it which is a great feeling.
Stick with Relate, even if you are going on your own, it might help you see your relationship in a different light. For me taking control has been the key. I can't control my dh or his behavior, or my ILs, but I can control how I feel and how I percieve and how I react, and that has made all the difference. Be kind to your self. My dh is rubbish at presents, so I buy my own, and so always recive the perfect gift
Vin I though you'd like that dress I'm only 5'3" and while I need heels with it, the length is fine. If you can wear black, it looks beautiful in black.