Why doesn’t she want me as a client?

[notamumyet2010]

This is such a first world problem, I’m almost embarrassed to speak about it but it’s really playing on my mind so I would love some opinions.
For years, I’ve been seeing a beautician for nail art. She was amazing, really talented and I thought we got on really well. I knew she also worked from home and after a couple of years I asked if she was looking for some home clients and she said no not at the moment due to time/space. Fair enough. I thought.
Anyway start of this year, she lost her job, it was very sudden as the place went under. She messaged me telling me what happened and I expressed empathy. After a week or so I saw on social media she was telling people to message her if they want to book in with her at home. Straight away I sent her a message and she responded saying she was just waiting for some materials to arrive and she would message me to let me know once she was up and running. I saw again on her socials she was seeing clients. I waited for a message and nothing. I was super confused as I really thought we got on well and I was a regular client. I left it for a while thinking she was probably getting things sorted, and it takes a while I’m sure. Well it’s been months now and I thought hell I’m going to send her one more message. So I texted asking how she is and is she taking more clients on. She said yes and she’s working hard including at a local spa. No mention of me booking in with her. I was like ok this is odd, decided to be brave and ask outright. “Can I book with you?, only I never heard from you” I get a strange message back saying she would be willing to do my nails but is fully booked till September!
I feel like for some reason she certainly doesn’t want me as a client, I have racked my brains for a reason and the only one I can think of is I ask for nail art every time which takes more time. However she did always say she loves it as she gets to be creative and all her other clients are boring. In fact she called me her favourite client.
Obviously sadly you guys will be no wiser as to why this has happened or what I’ve done, but my question is…..would you book in for September or just accept that for whatever reason this client/beautician relationship has ended?
It’s such a shame as she really is sooo talented but I just feel this has probably tainted the relationship now anyway.
Thanks for reading if you got this far!

I think you have been treated badly on this thread actually. I think some of the responses you’ve received have been batshit themselves.
Really glad it’s all sorted and well done for sticking up for yourself on here.

You asked a public forum for their opinions. They gave them. It did seem a bit bizarre that you would spend so much money on this woman and why you seemed so upset that she hadn’t messaged you, enough to write a thread about her. But you did ask!

Most people in your case would have just moved on and found another nail technician and thought nothing else of it and would not have even thought to write a thread about it. Hence why a lot of people thought you were being a bit overbearing.

At the end of the day it’s sorted now. You are happy, nail technician is happy and not avoiding you.

There’s an ongoing theme of taking things very, very personally here!

Agreed

I am getting from your post an intensity that many people are uncomfortable with. You say you got on well. But it should only be a professional relationship you are not getting married so why worry whether you "get on". I wouldn't have you as a client either thb, but then I am hetero so suppose my opinion doesnt count.

Go elsewhere. Plenty more beauticians available

It’s probably because you don’t tip and you haven’t paid extra for art so she’d rather do other people that do tip. Check what her new price is for the nail art before you go…

And don’t get me wrong- I hate tipping and I don’t tip but lots of people do and they’ll prefer tippers to non tippers.

Christ people, read OPs updates and stop piling on for the sake of it.

Good god!Am sure OP isnt awkward. And why should you think she smells?A bit OTT post IMO.e
It is rather strange and I probably wouldnt bother withh her. Find someone else.
She may be good,but plenty of other good beauticians around.

I can see why it feels personal, especially after seeing her regularly for years and thinking you had a good relationship. From the outside though, I wonder if it's more about the practical side of running her own business than anything you've done. Detailed nail art might be something she enjoys but it could also be harder to fit in when she's managing her own time and trying to rebuild her client list. I probably wouldn't chase again now. If you really love her work, maybe book September and see how it feels, but I'd also start looking around for someone else rather than feeling like you've done something wrong.

So do that! If you go back and forth for weeks she probably won’t have any openings in September left (which you may take as confirmation that she never wanted you as a client to begin with…)

@tilypu ‘s idea is clearly the best.

And if you will won’t get an appointment, you’ll have to truly start looking for a new nail technician.

Well the OP basically invited speculation about horrible personal characteristics by insisting for some reason that it wasn’t just that a busy, slightly scatty perhaps, new business owner wasn’t on top of retuning all messages. Which, I thought right from the beginning but the OP kept saying “no it’s MEEEEEEE”

It was very entertaining though. It was an insight into another way of life in lots of ways. I’m glad it’s all ok

I didn’t rtft but I read all the OP posts and I have to admit I did get over invested in the suspenseful bit in the middle where she was going “no, I have to accept this is over” and I was all “Noooooo she just doesn’t message customers for appointments, she expects them to message her! Which is normal! Don’t give up! This is like Romeo and Juliet!”

Then when she got the sept
booking I was all “phew, happy ever after”

No one thought the op smelt. I quoted the post that poster. She asked could the op smell because her friend is a beautician and had a client that did.

NOT calling the op “smelly”.

I’m confused about your title when she has actually asked to book you in! She evidently did want you as a client. She probably just forgot to text you back. Running a business is hard and she’s clearly been busy if she’s booked up. People read far too much into things.

OP, ignore them. Your feelings are totally valid, I know I would be feeling the same if I was suddenly dropped as a client.

Read the read. The op hasn’t suddenly been dropped and there wasn’t any hint she had been. Unless you regard being told that someone is very busy and availability in September as “suddenly dropped”

My post was to OP but thanks for your input

Fourth world problem really. But it’s worked out for the OP, despite the 345 posts.

Good God.
Bin her off, never contact her again.