OMG, I could actually cry.

[YouDontKnowBoutBenom]

Took dog for a walk and just had some Leopard print wide leg pants, black sandals and a black band tee.

DH took some candid photos of me and just sent them over whatsapp.

Jesus Christ :( I look awful. I look so old. So tired.

I'm 41. 5ft5. 9st.

I look ill, I look hunched. My hairs a state.

I look about 60 years old.

What the hell has happened to me :(

🤣🤣 I wear quite a lot of make up (hence the Nan in drag) and I look like I’ve got consumption in those cameras

Sort of agree with this! I’m 62 soon and it’s like my face is doing its own thing and leaving me behind! There is very little bounce left in my face and a pillow crease can last hours. I used to have Botox between my eyebrows but Covid stopped that … I think it would take so much now, it would be a tankerful rather than a syringe. And what to do with the rest of the face? It could do with hooking behind my ears😄
I pull it all back and up in the bathroom mirror to give a facelift impression ..but bits keep escaping… beyond hope now!

Im also 5'5 and 9st is my ideal goal weight (that i'll probably never achieve now Im over 50!!LOL). If I got down to that I would feel like the dogs bolloxs regardless of what I was wearing!😆
I think all bets are off for certain activities though. Surely nobody dresses up for dog walking or gardening, etc?
I have one work friend who sees me on the morning dog walk/school run most days....scruffy trainers, leggings, giant tee shirt (usually the same one for weeks coz I only wear it for an hour a day!), no make up. She probably thinks I spend all day looking like a bag lady!

Mine’s exactly the same. I hate virtually every photo he’s ever taken of me. Everyone else’s are fine. It’s like he has a special camera just for me!

I bet you looked good even before the pamper session and now you look fab. Personally i love band t-shirts, now I am old (way older than you) I only wear them to sleep in. I've always been into skin and hair care, yesterday I had a deep conditioning mask on my hair and a moisturising one on my face. This gave me a good excuse to lie on the bed relaxing while they worked their magic.

You need a silk pillowcase- they really do work by preventing creases.
Get some tretinoin
Try a LED mask and use it consistently

Root out photos pre 132 LB loss and compare them with them latest photos. You’ll see the progress and I suspect you’ll feel a whole heap better about these candid shots @YouDontKnowBoutBenom !

I actually like how I looked in those photos. Yes obviously I was morbidly obese but I was also 10 years younger. My hair was gorgeous and I used to do my make and and had a really cute style. My face was a lot, lot fuller but combined with better skin and rosy cheeks I don't think I looked horrific.

And my boobs were bloody fantastic. Nobody was looking at my double chin if I wore anything with a lower neckline 🤣 I miss those a lot.

People always assume, when you lose weight, that you feel better in your body.
I really don't.

From a health perspective yes, I want to be this weight of course and I would never want to go back to being that size for a myriad of reasons but my body now? I loathe it.
Absolutely loathe it.

And when you've lost 132lbs no amount of weight training will fix my body from a purely aesthetic POV.

Yes I am going to try and do weights to improve my health, strength and muscle tone but It cannot do anything for my body from a skin POV.

I was advised a 360 degree fluer de lis tummy tuck and breast lift when I enquired a few years ago. Because I just have so much skin. My breast are gone. They are just empty sacks i roll up from my belly into a bra. There is honestly nothing left of them bar skin.

Its not the positive experience most people would expect.

And there's nothing I can do about it which is jarring and humbling.

But when you’re clothed… you must look LOADS better with 132lbs off you?!
And presumably you are in these pics?
is the issue lots of loose skin? Is there no cosmetic procedure that will help? You’re right - tonight won’t address loads of loose skin but surely there’s surgeries?

How did you lose the weight? Slow and steady with diet and exercise?

Did you lose weight from ill health? Is that why you’re going to try weights now and not during your journey?

I lost 6 and a half stone, so less, but I’ve no lose skin at all,however I lost on purpose with the help of mounjaro,and worked out throughout.

if you’ve been unwell I think maybe try to love your body.

Not so sweet indeed.

I am not sure that comment added much to the discussion other than to make the OP feel bad. It certainly wasn't gentle.

I really appreciate all the kind words and you all sharing your own feelings in solidarity of noticing these changes but I don't really want to get into my weightloss as it doesn't change the outcome of where I am right now, it wasn't supposed to be the focus of me posting this thread and I regretted sharing that immediately, as I knew it would become it. I think starting a thread about one thing doesn't necessarily open up your whole life to scrutiny, unless its an AMA thread 🤣

I'm feeling a lot better today though, I should definitely make the effort to straighten my hair as thats made a big difference when I've caught myself in a mirror.

I think I will go to Boots tomorrow and look at some of the tinted moisturisers mentioned.

I've also been looking at a local page of a lady that does fillers for the lines around my mouth but that is a huge thing that I always thought I would never do but I just keep going back to look.

@TotallyBogusYeah sorry I know the thread isn't about you, but is it the outer third of your eyebrows? That's a sign of thyroid issues which would also explain the anxiety and weight gain! Just in case it helps because stress can definitely bring on underactive thyroid.

And the same kind of people that would judge me for being fat would judge me now for having saggy skin on show, or wrinkles or grey hairs so they're really not worth caring about, are they?

And I never said people wouldn't think I was fat at 19st, there was no hiding it, I simply said that I felt I had some positive physical attributes and liked my boobs more when I was fat.

You will look back on that photo in years to come and think you looked great!

It was a fair point. 19 stone. There is not a cat’s chance in hell that the op had amazing boobs and to describe the face as basically a picture of glowing rosy health - unlikely.

OP whilst you have aged…. You WILL look so so much better both clothed and naked at 10 stone over >19 stone.

Dont underplay this incredible achievement. Although you don’t want to say how you lost the weight… I am guessing it must have been 100% diet and no exercise if now say loose skin is bane of life

Get a boob job!

It doesn’t matter what the OP did or didn’t look like, it was a totally unnecessary comment. The OP didn’t invite a critique of how she used to look - it added nothing.

The poster was basically saying - don’t be down on yourself now as you just need to sort hair.

Same. I'm 38. Always feel like I look relatively slim with ok skin in the mirror, then the photos come out and it is like I have morphed into my 70 year old father, beer gut included. ☹️

Excuse me? I did have good boobs and my face was pretty. Why are you mad? Because a fat person dared to like a few parts of her body?? And I can look back at photos of myself and not be disgusted but pick out some positives? Am I supposed to look back and vomit??

Obviously I wasn't healthy or happy so I changed it.

But I don't feel happy (or super healthy in all honesty) at 9st either.

Your face IS pretty!!