Sandals for a funeral

[TheDutchHouse]

is this seen as a no ?
I'm not talking glittery flip flops but black leather buckle ups . Worn with trousers …

I've been to a few funerals and can't remember anyone's footwear nor can I imagine giving a shit about anyones footwear.

I think for some one living in S W London you seem to have a very narrow view of clothing and footwear and what people, all over the country, wear as everyday footwear.

Well I now feel judged .. if you’d read my posts you’d see there is a reason

I don't have any black shoes and haven't had any for about 20 years (and even then they were knee high boots). All my footwear is brown because it suits me/my wardrobe better plus an ancient pair of orange Converse and a sexy pair of dark blue satin strappy sandals.

My smartest shoes are a nutty brown Solovair DM style shoe.

No one will notice your sandals under trousers.

I’ve been to many funerals and remember many things about them. None of those memories relate to footwear

Oh dear, you seem to have taken this personally, which wasn’t my intention. In fact, by mentioning where I live, and making it plain I recognise social norms can differ from region to region, I was actually doing the opposite of what you think. Apologies if I wasn’t clear enough for you, it wasn’t my intention to upset you.

And your Solvair shoes are fine for a funeral.

I am from a part of the country where we wear traditional funeral attire and even i wouldn't bat an eyelid a plain black sandals.

Oh ha ha, that's brilliant. You didn't upset me in the slightest.

I do feel slightly sorry for you that you are so unaware of how fashions have changed in the last 10 or 15 years.

Right, because a message such as this is SO indicative of somebody who isn’t upset in the slightest!!

I agree, but unless it was cold/winter I would wear sandals because big clumpy heavy shoes don't look good with summer clothes and aren't comfortable when it's warm.

No I'm not upset. I'm very amused by you. The "oh may be it's a regional thing, I'm in SW London" was funny.

None of the other posters who thought sandals are fine, including me, thought it necessary to comment where we are located.

And then that comment that flat shoes can't be formal. Where have you been in the last decade? That's style wise, not literally.

And sandals are fine too. Goodness knows why it would be seen as disrespectful.

Obviously I'm not judging you for being the victim of domestic violence, any more than I'd judge someone who didn't have heeled shoes because of a disability. That doesn't mean it's not unusual, but it explains why you're - understandably - an exception.

You can get black ballet flats from any supermarket. Sandals at a funeral are always a no.

I think it would be ok.

Sandals at a funeral are always a no.

That's clearly a matter of opinion.

The only reason I commented about where I live was to see whether there are regional differences, seeing as there was a divergence of opinion on the thread, and London tends to be notably less formal than some other parts of the country. I’m not sure why that would provoke amusement - what did you think I I was aiming at there?

Would you expect social norms to be identical in Aberystwyth and Dundee, for example? Personally, I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s some regional variation in approach, which might help the OP work out whether people will be judging her if she turns up in sandals.

I don’t think so.

You wouldn’t wear them to a formal business meeting, so why a funeral?

I've known a CEO of a huge multinational wear sandals so I don't see why people have such rigid thinking about when they are appropriate.

Jesus wore sandals.

Totally agree

You wouldn’t wear them to a formal business meeting, so why a funeral?

I would and do. As per my previous comment, my feet run hot. I wear sandals if that's what I need to be comfortable. Luckily I've never had a job where H&S would override that.

I doubt that.

Your loss.