Sandals for a funeral

[TheDutchHouse]

is this seen as a no ?
I'm not talking glittery flip flops but black leather buckle ups . Worn with trousers …

Some people definitely would baulk at bare toes though, as this thread shows.

When did some of the commentators last attend a funeral? I wouldn't deem sandals worn under trousers inappropriate at a funeral in the UK in 2026.

The days of wearing mourning black seem to be long gone and, as should be the case, the deceased friends and family are pleased there was "a good turn out" rather than noticing what everyone is wearing.

I agree with this 100%.

I dont own actual shoes either. Why would I if I dont need them for work? I too live in a variety of trainers, boots in winter and sandals in summer. There's nothing odd about that.

I wore open toed sandals and had bare legs at my dad's funeral last year. It was the middle of July and very hot. Many female attendees were dressed similarly, from what I recall. You can check the dress code for the funeral to see if they want people dressed formally, but personally I think it's fine, what matters is that you're there.

Wear your smartest looking trainers with wide leg trousers. If it’s a church service it may be quite cool inside.

I don’t have any ‘smart’ shoes either as I’m not working. I have trainers, boots, sandals or high heels! Nothing appropriate for a funeral really.

I don't own any shoes either, except gold strappy things from when I was a bridesmaid. I bought some black supermarket loafers for a job interview last year and they were so painful I got rid of them after I got the job.

I wouldn't see an issue with say black fisherman's sandals and wide leg trousers but I wouldn't feel quite right with birkenstock-type two strap ones. But then I do own all-black leather trainers as an alternative.

I think some people on MN think we are still living in the past. I went to far to many funerals last year and no one was wearing formal mourning clothes.

Sandals are fine.

Unfortunately, I have been to 3 funerals recently. Nobody took any notice of anyone's footwear.

I dont see a problem with wearing sandals (or bare legs) at a funeral, unless it's a super formal one.

My feet get hot, I'll be wearing whatever is most comfortable. (I wore yellow sandals to a funeral on a hot June day. I couldn't tell you what other people wore on their feet. I just remember a lot of black/navy/grey and white clothes. )

Some people definitely would baulk at bare toes though, as this thread shows.

Those people pop up on every thread about sandals for anywhere other than the beach. I recommend that those people just stop looking down.

I did buy flat black shoes for a funeral a few years ago as I didn’t feel right in sandals. I was doing a reading though and wanted to be more formal.
I doubt anyone would notice or think badly of you for wearing sandals.

i should add I always have black boots and black leather winter shoes but they wouldn’t have been suitable for a warm day.

No one can make the statement that no one will care what you wear on your feet because some people absolutely will notice what you wear. This thread proves that some don't care, some don't notice, some do care and some actually take offence. Everyone has different opinions and it is now up the OP to decide whether it matters to her that her sandals might possibly bother someone else in attendance.

how do you know?

that is not true for all funerals
some are a celebration of life, bright colours requested, others are not.
just smart and neat, i get you dont have to be head to toe in black but you should still be respectful

I had to wear sandals to a funeral they were brown but double strapped and heeled with a black dress. No one seemed to take any notice esp not my cousins whose dad’s funeral it was. I would also not judge anyone else

If someone’s taking offence at a pair of sandals at a funeral then they probably go through life looking for opportunities to take offence. Nothing about it is inherently disrespectful- it’s not like having a huge barney in the middle of the service or getting hammered and throwing up as the coffin arrives at the crematorium. It’s an item of footwear.

just smart and neat, i get you dont have to be head to toe in black but you should still be respectful

Completely agree but sandals can be smart and neat and respectful.

Unless it's an extremely formal funeral (all women in hats etc) then is absolutely fine. A lot of people don't even wear black to funerals now (and I'm not referring to funerals with a colourful dress code)

As someone who works in churchyards and cemeteries, the grass is quite long in them at this time of year so damp unless it’s been really dry. They are also full of rabbit holes and uneven surfaces, so regardless of the done thing, I wear sensible shoes

Sandals are fine

op has bought black boots now

i think whatever you feel best in op

I wore snark black patent sandals with a smart black dress to a family funeral.

It’s fine. It’s a funeral, people shouldn’t be looking or caring about seeing someone’s toes.

Surprised at the amount of posts saying bare toes are an issue! Why?! They’re just toes, I don’t get how you would think they’re offensive to show.

OP, I wouldn’t give a flying fig what people were wearing on their feet when we’ve had funerals for loved ones. The only important thing is that people turn up to show their love and appreciation for the person.

What’s disrespectful about sandals?

Genuine question - I find this bewildering.