Is this outfit too much for an Irish church wedding in May?

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Another wedding guest one sorry!!

I am part of the grooms family. I will be doing one church reading and will be in a few pictures. I bought this and loved it. But now I am thinking it is too much? I am a size 14, 5'6'' tall, my bum/ bust measurements are equal and my waist is defined. I'm 36

Irish church wedding in May

https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-one-shoulder-ruffle-crepe-midi-dress_bcc09391?colour=red

Wear it and enjoy it!

Im.as English as they come, no even tenuous link of Irish in my ancestry.

I think its absolutely stunning and perfect for a wedding.

English and Irish weddings are not the same! Ive got family in Ireland and weddings are SUPER dressy.

I think it’s a lovely dress and would wear it.

Are there English people on this thread advising posters on what to wear to an Irish wedding?

Go for it. Irish people getting married usually LOVE to see people really dressed up, we see it as a huge compliment to how important you think the day is. No one gives a shiny shite about shoulders in the church.

(In the UK where I live now I’d only ever go with the midi length florals so as not to stand out!)

Yep. The arrogance and ignorance are astounding. Yet they claim to have manners and standards.
I can’t imagine how obnoxious I would need to be to see a thread titled ‘is this appropriate for a Greek Orthodox wedding?’ and being neither Greek nor Orthodox, and having never attended a Greek Orthodox wedding, to think it appropriate to wade in with my opinion based on my experience of Irish Catholic weddings, AND then to double down and declare my opinion to be reflective of decent standards. Mind-boggling.

I don't think it's classy enough. The loose, frilly sleeve on one side makes it look a bit cheap.

It's not craicnet, Op posted in S&B. So not unreasonable for non-Irish people to post opinions. I'm Irish, but clearly the wrong sort of Irish - OP didn't specify Catholic, which lots of posters seem to think she did.

Irish here, but have also been to many English weddings. That dress is absolutely fine for an Irish wedding (I've also seen similar at christenings) but would probably stand out a bit at an English wedding. In fact at Irish weddings I'd say this would look more normal than the ditsy floral tea dresses that frequently appeared at English weddings I've attended.

It's a nice dress but I'd be wary of dunking the frilly bit into my soup - maybe have your spoon in the other hand!

Irish weddings are super glam and dressy, I think it’s a fab dress OP.

She did imply it was a Catholic church in her second post.

Not Irish but live in Scotland and attend mass at a Catholic Church weekly — I wouldn’t bat an eye if I saw this, it’s not racy in the slightest.

Irish church weddings aren't necessarily flamboyant or flashy, generally the younger women are dressed up to the nines all right, while older ladies (like me) might wear a slightly conservative trouser suit. Anything goes really, except for anything that is very short or low cut. I think the dress code for occasions is maybe a bit more flexible. Same with funerals, i often read on here about people buying a black dress or outfit for a funeral, i (unfortunately) go to a lot of irish funerals, and people generally just wear sober, modest clothes, rather than black.

Not even a piss take from me; I did genuinely wonder if you were trying to dress as the iPhone female “dance” emoji. No idea what it says about wedding appropriateness, but if I thought it immediately, then a lot of other people will, too. Totally up to you, OP, whether that strikes you as a good or bad thing.

Shoulders are fine

Had the OP asked if this was appropriate for a Church of Ireland wedding - I would not have commented because I wouldn’t have a clue, never been to one - all religions, churches, weddings and cultures are not CofE - it’s fucking weird to think your opinion matters when you don’t have a fucking clue! Of course non Irish people can respond with their negging but if they haven’t even attended an Irish wedding why would they feel they had anything worthwhile to contribute?

It is a lovely dress and you will look great! Anything anyone posts for a wedding will be too boring or too bright or too white or too something - if you like it wear it! Everyone should be staring at the bride anyway so it shouldn't matter what anyone else wears😆

She did specify catholic only minutes into the post.
It is fairly unreasonable to give an opinion when you have no experience of the subject matter. It’s like asking ‘would this be appropriate in most offices?’ And someone who has never worked answering.

Were your English DCs attending Irish weddings and decided like you that they knew better than the local culture, how rude! or did you completely misunderstand the question? You sound so out of touch with other cultures it is mind blowing!
We don’t have to comply with England (fyi) - do you think England sets the standard?🙄😁

It’s not “Irish or not” though, awareness of cultural norms is needed to advise someone on cultural norms.
There is no rule against red at Irish weddings .

Thankfully the main rule of an Irish wedding is come have fun, be happy for the couple and dont judge what anyone wears cos we dont actually give a fuck so long as you dont act the amadàn.

"We don’t have to comply with England (fyi) - do you think England sets the standard?🙄😁"

That really is the nub of the problem. There are people on here asking what shoes would go with a dress I frankly wouldn't throw around the immersion, much less wear to a wedding, but I wouldn't be so rude to say so. But to claim your views are the benchmark - sweet Jesus, how utterly unaware are you?!

And some people really cannot seem to take the hint and shut the fuck up about what they perceive as acceptable being 'manners' and the 'rules'.