Is this outfit too much for an Irish church wedding in May?

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Another wedding guest one sorry!!

I am part of the grooms family. I will be doing one church reading and will be in a few pictures. I bought this and loved it. But now I am thinking it is too much? I am a size 14, 5'6'' tall, my bum/ bust measurements are equal and my waist is defined. I'm 36

Irish church wedding in May

https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-one-shoulder-ruffle-crepe-midi-dress_bcc09391?colour=red

What the fuck am I reading! The condescension and ignorance is dripping off some of these posters. An Irish bride wants all her guests to look and feel fabulous. She’s not insecure enough to think that anyone not in actual wedding dress could upstage her on her wedding day.
Wear the red dress, put roses in your hair and between your teeth if you want to! They’ve obviously never been to an Irish wedding where almost every single guest will have had her make up professionally done and her hair put into a fabulous updo, had her tan done and be wearing a dress that wouldn’t look out of place on the red carpet. Sometimes I see the threads where people have three weddings, a christening and a party coming up and they want a dress that will do for all five. Not only would you never do that in Ireland, but the dresses suggested for them look like something I’d wear to work. It’s a different culture and if you have no actual experience why bother commenting.

Rant over.

We must move in very different circles, because all the Irish travellers I know, reger to themselves as gypsys

it's more the norm to say gypsies when speaking about Irish travellers

Maybe on MN, or in the UK (I’m not sure). Not in Ireland though.
I think this wedding is in Ireland and I think it might have been more useful if OP had posted in Craicnet actually, as there seem to be some cultural differences regarding appropriate attire for a wedding guest 😅

Are these Irish travellers in Ireland or the UK though?

Absolutely key cultural differences.
“Reserved” is not the word people reach for while searching for a wedding outfit. Fabulous maybe.

Irish travellers in Ireland do not refer to themselves as gypsies.

You are talking out of your head.

Both, but mainly Scotland if I'd to be honest.

Well in my circle of friends, they to to be fair.

Okay, it’s not typically used in Ireland in my experience.

The OP is Irish and says she's been to many weddings so why is she asking in the thread title 'if this outfit too much for an Irish church wedding...' ?

IMO, she's asking because she knows that this dress is a bit risqué for a church wedding and is having doubts!

in your circle of Irish traveller friends living in Ireland?

Yeah right.

They are distinct ethnic group - recognised as Irish travellers in both legal terms and they refer to themselves as such. It is often used as an umbrella term in the UK but in Ireland Irish travellers distinguish themselves from Roma in this way. It was a very long road for Irish travellers to be actually recognised as an ethnic group.

Not worried about being risqué, worried about looking like the Spanish dancer emoji I think. PP have said that an exposed shoulder isn’t suitable, but that’s not at all true.

Irish Catholic here, this dress is perfect for a wedding in Ireland.

☝🏻this 🤨

Agree exposed should in Irish Catholic Church is not considered risqué

Yet you managed it.🙄

Yet the uk has a slightly higher alcoholism rate…go figure!

There’s several pages of Irish women saying it’s a perfectly suitable dress so why did you feel the need to leave such an obnoxious comment? Astounding arrogance.

dress style shape etc is grand but red to a wedding is sometimes frowned upon as tasteless

In Ireland?? no it isn’t…

I’m Irish, and I’ve been to mostly Catholic Church weddings. The only tradition that I’m aware of is don’t wear white.like so many other Irish posters, that dress would be perfectly acceptable. I don’t think I know anyone who would worry about the exposed shoulders in church. That’s something that most of us only experience when going sightseeing in Rome for example.

It is very relaxed in Irish churches around that sort of thing. weddings tend to be very dressed up - and I wouldn’t worry about the style or colour of this dress in the slightest.

I would go as far as saying there is no difference in type of clothes acceptable at a secular wedding to a church wedding in Ireland. If someone turned up with an arse-revealing outfit, they would be raising eyebrows at both! This dress would not be an issue at all.

Just to add, now that I’ve read all of the OPs responses, I think the colour is perfect, you can wear whatever colour you want (apart from all white) and it sounds like it suits you. Don’t worry about it at all.

Well is the bride beautiful, are you?
Could you be the centre of attention rather than the bride

No, it just means a certain section of society are stuck in a rut and can't get themselves out. As I said, much of the world has moved on from these outdated and ridiculous views (thank goodness), including Ireland according to posters on this thread.

Irish here. There are no rules about covering shoulders in Irish churches. To be honest anything goes really. OP the dress is fine if you like it. Personally I think you could find better but that's personal choice and not about the dress being inappropriate for a church wedding in Ireland.

It's grand for a young one but you'll catch your death in the church!