Is this outfit too much for an Irish church wedding in May?

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Another wedding guest one sorry!!

I am part of the grooms family. I will be doing one church reading and will be in a few pictures. I bought this and loved it. But now I am thinking it is too much? I am a size 14, 5'6'' tall, my bum/ bust measurements are equal and my waist is defined. I'm 36

Irish church wedding in May

https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-one-shoulder-ruffle-crepe-midi-dress_bcc09391?colour=red

Both my parents were Irish born and raised. My mother would never have considered that an appropriate outfit to wear for a church wedding as a member of the wedding party. She wasn't a stick in the mud type at all having been raised as a mass twice on Sunday Catholic who then eloped with my Anglican father and married him in a Presbyterian church in the Antipodes with two witnesses. (It was Lent when they arrived and neither the Anglicans nor the Catholics would marry them and it was costing them a fortune to rent two houses for appearances sake.) She was incredibly chic at my wedding. Irish people are not an entirely homogenous group and nobody can speak for all Irish and the question is whether that dress is acceptable in the OP's social group. She presumably knows better than any of us whether or not it is acceptable.

I love how still it’s the commenters insisting on some tenuous link to Ireland which are the only ones to say it’s inappropriate.

I have been to lots of English weddings. A lot of guests were wearing the sort of thing I might wear to work. Yes they were pleasantly dressed, but often very conservative.

I am curious now about English weddings. I have never been to one. In Ireland weddings are very glamorous full of style, colour and fascinators. We give cash gifts usually 200E. If a couple were going.
What happens at English weddings? I'm genuinely curious.

To me it’s more like a party dress - a bit too revealing for a church wedding.

Not the point, I know, but we attended a church wedding in Ireland towards the end of one May and it was bloody freezing! I felt so sorry for the bridesmaids and quite a few guests who must have been so cold.

Anglo Saxons and Celts are like oil and water when it comes down to it, weddings included. 😊

A wedding is a party 😂

I'm Irish, been living in the UK for 25 years. Been to more weddings here than in Ireland. There are loads of different types of weddings in the UK but for your average White British wedding, the outfits are definitely more low key than in Ireland. People let their hair down and there's plenty of drinking, but it's often all wrapped up by 11pm, or midnight at the latest.

The expectation around gifts / cash are so different - DP and I might give a £50 voucher as a gift in the UK, whereas in Ireland 200euro would be expected. Irish people on the thread will know that being seen as tight / mean is absolute social death in Ireland, so this is pretty much a rule rather than a guide. Me and the UK side of the family think it's wild!

If it’s a choice between glamour and warmth, we will pretty much go for the glamour every time.

OK I haven't read through all the comments. The only full mirror is in DS room

This is the dress. See what ye think. I will be wearing about 3 inch heels, a bit of sally han on the legs, probably hair up and to one side, no necklace, small earrings, possibly small bracelet, and enormous spanks!! No handbag - well enormous nappy bag 😂

@LuciferTheMorningStar yes some of the printed dresses that appear here are so drab, my mum wouldn't have worn them, and she would have been 100 this year!

I don’t think it’s inappropriate but I’m not mad about the dress. I think the trailing bits would annoy me, but I tend towards clumsiness so that could be why.

Hum..... I am incredibly clumsy. I often rip the belt loops out of jeans when I get caught on things (looking at you door handle)

I think you will look fabulous and very appropriate given that it’s an Irish wedding

voted yabu as I believe it’s bad luck to wear red to a wedding

It’s gorgeous op and suits your figure. Go for it!

It isnt.

Just to summarise all the Irish people think that it is fine and the British think you must not wear red.

It looks lovely on you. Enjoy it.

Thanks :)

OP, thanks for bringing us an unintentionally hilarious thread.

Your dress is lovely....it's not revealing (althought I suspect it's scandelous ankle exposure, not to mention the highly provacative naked shoulder that is causing some bizarre reactions 🤣), there's nothing wrong with red and as for unsuitable for a church (80% of the people there will see the church as a venue & nothing more) and Irish churches don't habe dress codes anyway.

Enjoy the wedding.

PS - I'm Irish, living in the "posh" part of Dublin - in reality, just the expensive part!

It’ll give the aunties something to bitch about.

I lived in the 'posh' part for a while. Also worked with a fair few refined ones over the years. My particular brand of flat bog dweller can be hit and miss.

I think I am going to keep searching though. I do like it and I would wear it going somewhere or even at Christmas. But I don't want to be the emoji in the photos. Maybe a bit too much going on with the sholder and the skirt

Well, it varies.
Sometimes you have folk dressed like they've stepped out of a "starched shirts and skirts" catalogue, with the colour theme dictated as "muted". Other times, it can be a psychedelic riot of glorious colours, swirly fabrics, skirts of all lengths and not a fascinator to be seen!
My own wedding had just a few requests for our guests: wear what you like, have fun, and make good use of the open bar!
We're not ALL uptight, over here in England, you know. 😁

Irish here - I think it would probably be ok, but maybe run it by the bride first. If the bridesmaids are in sage, your bright red dress will stand out even more in photos in comparison to that muted colour. I also don’t think you’re wearing it correctly? The model has the cape bit over the arm rather than under the armpit