Is this dated if not please help me style it

[Travelcrazy]

Going to a wedding early June and I have bought this, it looks nice on buy not sure if I will go with it yet. I am blonde with a tan 5 feet 3 size 10. Is it ok and if so please can you suggest shoes, bag, jacket or cardigan and a fascinator. Thanks very much

It's a wedding, not a salsa dance event! She'll look like the entertainment ...

Its a nice dress but lose the sash, and i think you should opt for a thick black belt and black shoes or sandals. White bag and jacket. Jacket should be a smart fitted blazer style but not too long or it might swamp you. I think fascinators have had their day so no headgear. And chunky silver jewellery. Obviously this is just my opinion. The dress is a busy pattern so everything else should be as plain and simple as possible. Less is more

@Wildgoat I don't dress in the current fashions as I think most of them are horrible and don't suit me. Doesn't mean I go around looking like a sack of spuds.

Isn't that what everyone should do?
People post links to all sorts of supposedly up to date clothes with no idea really of the OP's body shape, colouring or taste.
I really think some people must go out looking a real fright just to be fashionable.
OP, wear what you feel comfortable in.

I have that dress & look fantastic in it- hence the suggestion, not a castanet in sight.
What would you wear EleanorMc67? Twin set & pearls?

I like this dress too, and polka dots are very fashionable just now

I've no doubt you do, & I didn't say I disliked it, nor am I attacking your choice!

However, the point of the OP's question is what SHE should wear, not what the rest of us like to wear ourselves? And the OP is a woman who's just bought a very conventional dress (some think frumpy/dated, some think classic & timeless) for a wedding. She also says she's probably old-fashioned & seems (from her replies/questions to PPs) to be very uncertain about her fashion choices - or this one in particular.

So I think if she is going to buy a different dress, then I somehow don't think she's going to leap at something that is bare shouldered, very fitted & (probably) bra-less?

Also, we don't know if it's a church wedding. Whether you agree with it or not, people attending a church don't usually go bare-shouldered, showing cleavage, or in mini dresses or shorts. And that convention - for men as well as women - is still generally adhered to by guests, even for registry/non-church weddings. I personally don't think your dress is suitable for a wedding, that's all (an evening reception is different). And I'm someone who doesn't give a shit about wearing red, green or too much white to a wedding ...

What I would recommend to someone shorter, thinner, older & more conventional fashion-wise than me, with totally different colouring, would be what I think would suit her, not me?

No of course not and I didn’t suggest such a thing, clearly there is a huge spectrum between book ends.

but the op was asking if the dress was dated and you don’t like clothes that aren’t dated, so I guess your response is yes but I like a bit of that,

This is exactly what I thought of, I also had matching cushions 🙈

I think it's a lovely dress, perfect for a wedding.
Avoid a cardigan, go for a bolero type jacket in either black, white or cream. And maybe look for a large (fake) flower in that turquoise colour to pin on one side of the jacket.
Black shoes and (small) bag.

Or nude shoes and bag, if going with a white or cream jacket.

Have a look at Hobbs or Coast for something you like, then check Vinted.

Good luck!

It’s not fashionable, but it’s not terrible. The turquoise sash is horrid.

Avoid any matchy-matchy stuff or turquoise accessories. And above all, do not wear a fascinator - immediate fussy frumpsville.

Exactly why I said Id add shoulder straps & a short jacket,lovely. 😁

I don't think shoulder straps would work. It would be easier to buy another polka-dot dress in a more suitable style.

It's a glam fitted going-out-on-the-town dress IMO - not a wedding guest dress. I'm not even sure if you'd get an ordinary jacket to fit over it, as the armholes wouldn't fit over the bandeau strap. It comes down the arm quite far.

If you look at the photos on ASOS more closely, it's really cut away around the chest - definitely no bra & the sides of the model's breasts are exposed (as well as the hanger tag under her armpit - sloppy styling!!).

It's a stretch viscose with 3% Spandex described on ASOS as a "figure sculpting dress ... designed to flatter and enhance the female form" & as a "cocktail dress [in a] bodycon style". None of that says wedding guest to me - but I really do think it would look great for Latin American dancing!!!

See what I mean?

See, it’s very wedding guest where I’m from, Scotland.

A lot of the outfits suggested on MN for weddings would look bizarre and, yes, frumpy, at a wedding here.

the original OP dress would be spot on, dressed as discussed, the polka dot one too

If I was going to wear navy & white polka dots to a wedding, I'd choose a slightly different style of dress. Definitely one that I could wear a bra beneath, & I'd say it's likely that the OP would want to wear a bra too ...??!🤔

Maybe one of these? (No, they're not all in budget, as I have no idea whether the OP likes polka dots, they're just my suggestions for more wedding-appropriate polka-dot dresses.)

@Ophir I agree about Scottish wedding guests. Definitely more "dressed up" than some of the long shapeless things suggested on here.

I think you're generalising for an entire country - I'm in Scotland too!

I don't even think you could say it's more one part of Scotland - or England - or Wales or NI (or Outer Mongolia!) than another. It's that particular wedding & the guests attending, surely?

So even if it's fine for the weddings you attend, I still think that for the majority it's not. And I've been to an awful lot, all over the UK, over the years, with all kinds of guests. But I think we'll have to agree to disagree!

I've never heard the MN rule of not wearing anything remotely white to a wedding or having to wear a certain colour, in Scotland.

That's because I don't think it's an MN rule - or an English/Scottish/Irish/Welsh rule - it's just certain people/certain areas/certain weddings?

😂This has absolutely nothing to do with attractive women in their 60s. C'mon Madonna get your act together
& put your Stretchy comfies on when attending a wedding 😂

Yes! People are so glam, I love it

I think it looks great, just needs an update!

A previous poster mentioned teal and pink, and I completely agree, they look fab together!. 💕

focus on the following:

1. Black sling-back shoes
2. A black belt
3. A black fascinator
4. A fuchsia/ cerise pink shawl
5. A hot pink and teal clutch bag.

It will all cost under £200 (approx £185) and here are some web links and screenshots below!

Team it up with black sling backs:
https://www.zara.com/uk/en/slingback-heels-with-bow-detail-p12259710.html?v1=502289184&utmsource=google&utmmedium=cpc&gadsource=1&gadcampaignid=11260393417&gclid=CjwKCAjw687NBhB4EiwAQ645dlEFpPVUY5H1Su80dZtshDqR2MlPuTvtO8UGl07WIr1lMK8UrHsNBoCvUUQAvDBwE

I would get a black sash belt or skinny belt like this one:
https://www.boden.com/products/women-skinny-bow-belt-black-velvet-a2058blw?variant=42707595133137&tcch=ps&tcve=goog&tcso=x&tcme=cr&tcca=&tcau=&tccr=na&tccampid=21221764987&tcadgroupid=&tckwid=&tcmatchid=&gadsource=1&gadcampaignid=21218304686&gclid=CjwKCAjw687NBhB4EiwAQ645doM80J6WVxAHRA-UVauEau1K-TkcF7lXMwVu2Cnb8tGFzpNaQqWpsxoCIWgQAvDBwE

I would get a black fascinator like this:
https://fascinator.co.uk/product/black-round-sinamay-fascinator-with-loops-feathers/

Team it up with a hot cerise pink shawl like this:
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1752050072/cerise-pink-silk-wedding-shawl-extra?ref=elpanchorlisting&cns=1

Then maybe a hot pink and teal handbag such as this:
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/729225986/ikat-clutch-bag-amalfi-handmade-velvet?ls=a&external=1&ref=landingpagesimilarlistingtop-1&frs=1&plkey=Eud6yMXqgZgJ-EY7CYvQrv3oWh40%3ALT3f209a0e789b35ab1d0277801d1e2afd68ccffd0

Hope this helps 💐
@Travelcrazy

P.s. I spent ages writing this, it then disappeared, so I rewrote it onto a note on my phone, then it magically reappeared. I hate this website at times for its glitches 😭

I quite like it but I’m useless.

https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-plunge-neck-twill-dress-with-placement-print_bcc06627?colour=green&size=10&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19671816139&gclid=CjwKCAjw687NBhB4EiwAQ645dunsWTntjoSqsMTQzuW1WWHppXNTZ7QQL4LziKWBDrJV4YftW9CzYBoC5FMQAvD_BwE