Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

It’s inappropriate. Why do you hate the bride?

Just stop bullying the OP! Go away.

Oh Jesus Christ 😆😆

I wouldn’t wear it personally. Fanny dress through!

It's giving main character vibes

This

This is daft. Are you really saying that you’d invite someone to your wedding and then be angry that they’d spent money on a pretty dress to come and celebrate YOUR day with YOUR new husband because they were wearing a cream and flowery dress? That way madness lies imo.

What the fuck?!

Thattimenow · Today 14:13
even setting aside the white issue, and the fact it will crease to buggery if silk…. It’s just not a very nice dress

This was the “nasty” response the OP refers to

All of them tbh.
I can't quite believe you are the mother of a ND child.
You are replying in a very childish and bullying manner.
The OP owes you no explanations.

Really hoping that’s a typo for fancy 😄😄

The objection to white and cream at weddings are not just about looking “bridal” it’s about not slowing the bride to stand out in photos, group settings etc.

At a wedding any time you’re catching a flash of cream dress it should be the bride

I think its borderline OP therefore would urr on the side of caution and wear something else. Beautiful dress though

I agree with your mum.

I think she was referring to the are you Nero diverse? Which was pretty nasty.

So if this isn't an informal wedding with an informal bride, the dress will be fine.

It's only on MN that you can't wear white or beige to a wedding. I don't mean full on wedding dress but Phase Eight is full of dresses like this - for guests - eg here: https://www.phase-eight.com/product/tilly-floral-midi-dress-10016060102.html#cgid=dresses&is=true&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=10016060102&pos=10

If you are just a friend or distant relative nobody will be looking at you anyway. And I went to a wedding recently where the mother of the bride had a dress like this and looked lovely. Not remotely bride-like.

you’ll visually compete with the bride if you wear it, assuming she wears white/cream

and it looks like a dress to wear when you catch the bridal bouquet 😁

Bloody hell there are some strange and bitter people about!

Anyway
I got married in deep red crushed velvet. I would be totally ripped apart on here for not wearing white it appears by the assumptions being made that all brides wear white!

I think the dress is beautiful OP. As long as you don't wear a veil, carry a bridal bouquet and try and kiss the groom I think it would be a very fitting wedding outfit and no one is going to mistake you for the one getting married who will be the centre of attention.

Then again according to some of these responses I should also be complaining about it behind you back and causing a life long rift between you and the I, if I were the bride!

Or this one: https://www.phase-eight.com/product/margaret-dress-10015830806.html#cgid=mother-of-the-bride&is=true&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=10015830806&pos=24

Nobody is going to this someone wearing this is the bride

I think it’s a lovely dress, but there is too much white. For example, if you had someone standing either side of you in a picture, you wouldn’t see the flowers and it would look like you were wearing an all white dress. Plus, being silk, it’s a “bridal” material. I wouldn’t wear it. I wouldn’t care if someone had worn this dress to my wedding, but some brides are very particular about no one wearing white/cream/ivory. I remember people threatening to spill red down anyone wearing white at their wedding on a Facebook bride page I was on! (Insane reaction, in my opinion, but I wouldn’t risk it).

I’m another one who also thought this was a less formal wedding dress!

So on that basis I think it’s a definite no for a wedding.

Really, going by etiquette, you shouldn’t be wearing anything that could make you look like the bride - in photos she should be the only one wearing a cream/white/ivory dress (assuming traditional wedding).

In a sea of pretty colours, it’s going to be you and the bride in white dresses….which does feel like you’re unintentionally competing for attention.

For everyone saying it wouldn’t bother them, that’s great. But some people ARE bothered by etiquette, so why risk causing offence when there are tons of other pretty dresses out there?

It is a lovely dress though. I assume it doesn’t come in other colours?

It's a lovely dress 💐
But I would be paranoid that it would show up as mostly white in the photographs, and for that reason wouldn't wear it personally. 💕
But maybe keep it for a christening or another special occasion? As it is pretty 🥰

The fanny dress comment made me howl 😆
@EndlessCupsofSugaryTea

sorry but the phase eight dress you posted reads pink to me not white… it’s mikes away from OPs dress @igelkott2026

Too white

Beautiful dress though

It’s lovely but it’s white x

It would not bother me one bit. But I wanted my guests to be comfortable and happy and to wear what they wanted. As you can see though sadly, the dress is too much for the bridezillas of Mumsnet.