Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

yes I obviously bring out the worst in people 😁

Too white. Give the bride her day

And HOW does this dress not meet wedding attire etiquette?? It is NOT a white dress, definitely NOT a wedding dress, it is not revealing, it has nothing to upstage the bride! Honestly I dont get it. It is just a floral beautiful dress perfect for a spring wedding!

The wedding was end of August and it was this exact dress (went back and looked at photos before my initial comment to see how the dress looked in photos!)

Can you check with the bride?
I went to a wedding some years ago and had bought a new dress which was cream & green. It was clearly not a wedding dress by any stretch of the imagination but I was a bit concerned. Bride said it was fine (I sent her a photo).

There’s one in the sale, last years which I think I
is this one. Then there’s a new design for this season full price.

It’s in the sale it’s from last season.

https://www.hobbs.com/product/eva-floral-silk-dress/0125-5458-3793L00-CREAM-MULTI.html#navAjax=true&sz=60&start=0&srule=price-high-to-low&cgid=sale-clothing-dresses&is=true&isSecondPage=false&pid=0125-5458-3793L00-CREAM-MULTI&pos=11

I really, really don't understand the "won't someone think of the photos" hand wringing.

Any one who wants to look at them knows perfectly well who the bride is. Why on earth does it matter if someone who isn't the bride is wearing a dress that looks white or pale ?

Scroll through some of the guests at Megan Markle's wedding.

www.whowhatwear.com/uk/meghan-harry-royal-wedding-guests-outfits

Does anyone even look at wedding photographs much after the event? Apart from the B&G, who are probably only really interested in the ones with just the two of them?

I thought you said your mother advised you, not told you. We can all do with some advice sometimes. But up to you if you take it, you should go ahead and just wear that dress then..

I think it’s fine, you accesorise with a bright coloured hat, shoes and bag to take away the whiteness as well

Well no, it wasn’t an order. I just found it odd the way you said “Why would you do this after the advice your mother gave you?!”, as if said advice would make it a foregone conclusion.

No too white, steer clear of anything white as trust me, people will talk about it, whether the bride is bothered or not.

My first thought was that it's a beautiful dress for a bride.
Its gorgeous, but definitely not for a wedding guest.

This is the worst way to live your life , in fear of people talking about you

“People would talk about it”

I wouldn’t.

Would you @Zanatdy ?

I think I’ve already explained how.
if a bride wears a non bridal dress, from a standard high street shop, there’s every chance that a guest will be wearing the same or similar.

but why wouldn’t you just wear a suitable colour to a wedding instead of just not caring what people will say? So many dresses you could choose, why go for a white one. The bride should be the only person in white in the photos.

I might not talk about it, but i’d think why did she wear white to a wedding, as it is a faux pas as you can see from majority of comments.

If it was floral all over then I’d say okay, but if you’re in a group photo where your sides are hidden, it is literally a plain white dress 🤷🏻‍♀️

It looks like a wedding dress for an older bride tbh

I newly wore exactly the same dress as the bride once- a black and red one from Rixo. The bride (who was in leopard skin) saw me and burst out laughing as she’d bought two dresses- mine and hers- and only decided on the morning which one she would wear. Thank heavens for that 😂

Yes looks like a wedding dress.