Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

Seriously, I don't agree with your mum, at all ! Rather unwittingly, your post subject/title rather colours people's' judgments (no pun intended) as it immediately draws us to the white ..... (which is in fact (as you say) cream, buttermilk) and it becomes hard to not see the 'white' element of this (beautiful) dress, but its imo entirely appropriate to wear, and especially if you wear fuscia / pink accessories, which will take the white/cream down even more. Id wear it x

I think this is your best option. It’s a really pretty dress but I have no idea if the bride would be ok with or not, and neither do you, so best enquire with her.

I hope she says yes to the dress! 😁

I agree with other posters that it looks like a non-traditional wedding dress and it would even more so in group photos where the sides are likely to be more covered up.

To be honest, it’s all about etiquette and respect.
Only the bride should wear white.

The dress is beautiful for a garden party, or birthday party, but no, not a wedding. It’s the bride’s day, not yours.

What brand is it? Does it come in another colour? It's lovely but perhaps don't risk it?

My God. Do you hate the bride? Are you an old girlfriend or something? You can't be serious, it looks like a wedding dress.

Oh god, I thought the really demented posts had slowed down. Maybe it was the eye of the storm…

I am enjoying your comments OP. Some posters on here really need to get a sense of perspective, and a life…

No, it doesn’t. Don’t be silly.

Oh I see now, this is a troll thread. Right, will stop poking the bear then. Do enjoy your ficticious wedding.

It's a beautiful dress but it's definitely bridal.

It gives 'I-want-a-bridal-dress-but-with-a-splash-of-colour-to-be-quirky' vibes.

Hang on… YOU are the one ranting about how I must hate the bride, or be an old girlfriend - like I’m going in a full length Valentino crystal-encrusted gown. And you’re trying to say I’M the troll?!

I honestly wonder sometimes how these people even manage to get online.

I previously posted that the gold medal for maddest comment on this thread had been awarded!

I'm going to have to take that back and award this one as the total maddest!!

Hilarious as well!

Yeah, that’s just a bloody ridiculous comment.

Isn’t it!

And one the OP should apparently not respond too, or it makes her a troll! 🤦‍♀️

I don’t understand why ‘troll hunting’ is banned on here, particularly when people post plainly stupid things like that.

If you wore that to my wedding then I’m pretty sure my MoH would have come at you with a large glass of red wine…

As a PP noted, in a group photo the floral elements could easily be covered by other peoples arms - then you’re just the woman in a white dress at someone else’s wedding.

If you wore that to my wedding then I’m pretty sure my MoH would have come at you with a large glass of red wine…

Why? Is she a bit rough?

Are you an adult woman threatening and being proud of having an aggressive friend . This thread is SO WEIRD.

The dress is gorgeous. I have 2 Hobbs silk dresses and can vouch for the fact they don’t crease badly. They are a very fine chiffon weave. It doesn’t look remotely bridal to me. Nothing like any bridal dress at any wedding I’ve ever come across. But given the amount of feeling expressed on the thread if it was me I’d take that as the general consensus that it isn’t suitable.

Classy!

I think she may have had a mention on the worst things you’ve seen adults do at a wedding thread!

I would not ask any bride this. She could say that’s fine because she won’t want to seem like a total bridezilla by forbidding dresses regardless of how she actually feels. Don’t put the bride in this position, if you have chosen a dress that you have to ask the bride if she minds you wearing it it is quite obviously the wrong dress. Choose another one.

Having read through all the comments, and reading your incredibly rude replies to some, I reiterate what I said in my first comment.
Etiquette and respect are paramount at weddings, at 'any' occasion really. You appear to have neither, so I’m sure you’ll wear the dress regardless. I’m wondering why you even posted in the first place.

Ascot? A formal garden party? Christening?