Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

It is a pretty dress but the ratio of flower to white fabric is too low in my opinion, so I personally wouldn't.

@packratandproud yes lots of fun thanks

The woman who wore white was a real cow. My friend doesn't speak to her now as 'the cow' cheated on her husband and was a real bitch to anyone who 'wasn't on her side.'

@packratandproud why would you wear white to a wedding when you can wear any other colour? Why would you wear a colour that made it about 'you' rather than the bride. Why would you do that?

It's not white. its cream and floral

You are argumentative.

Absolutely not.

Honestly, I think if you even need to ask then it’s a yes. I get it has flowers and it’s not a typical bridal style but I would also agree it’s too much on the white spectrum. As others have said, there are loads of other colour dresses to choose from, it’s safer to just steer clear of white/ beige.

A friend of mine’s mother wore a cream outfit to her wedding, everyone I spoke to on the day commented on how inappropriate it was.

It’s pretty for another occasion, but too bridal for a wedding guest IMO

And?

Even if you think its ok you must realise your mum will not be the only one thinking this . I would save yourself from people muttering and the stares and pick something else people do comment about anything white cream or ivory its just not worth it

The image popped up before I clicked on the post and I have to admit I thought oh that would be lovely to wear for a second wedding day.
I'm not usually in this camp but I have to admit to being this time.

I wouldn’t - it’s definitely white

@packratandproud Ah I see pedants corner is alive and well

Why would you wear a colour that the vast majority of brides wear - white / ivory / cream / pantones similar to any of these?

My question still stands - why would you make it about 'you' and not the bride?

Yes the dress has some flowers on it but the predominant colour is cream / white and therefore not acceptable for a wedding.

I wouldn’t wear it, imagine a group shot bride and groom at the front. Let’s say your also on the front with someone either side of you which may cover the sides of the dress so now your left with 2 women dressed in white at the front

I would say it's too white and too bridal.

I think this only exists on mumnsnet . Every wedding I have ever been to has had women in white or cream background floral.dresses

A dress covered in a pattern with a white background isn't the same thing at all. I don't believe that every wedding you've ever been to has featured women in dresses with an inappropriate amount of white on them.

They'll all have had a black skirt, white top dress, though. Those are mandatory.

I think this thread clearly shows that some people will think it's too white and some people won't. So unless you know the bride really well and that she won't be bothered there is a chance you'll offend the bride.

@packratandproud It's not a Mumsnet thing. My gran told me about this decades ago. As have many other people growing up

Every wedding I have been to, apart from the 1 previously mentioned, every single guest did NOT wear white.

I suspect I am older than you but really are guests really that thoughtless?

You might not but it's pretty established etiquette and lots of brides would be annoyed if not upset.

Why piss someone off on their wedding day when it's pretty easy to avoid?

Jesus fucking Christ.

It’s not white.

The green one you have shared is much nicer anyway to be honest.

theres also this Hobbs one which is on sale at M&S though they seem to only have sizes 8, 10 and 12

https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-silk-floral-midi-waisted-dress/p/clp23031431?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

Ooh, I like that one too!

100%

The gem detailing on shoulder really adds to it too. Was going to say could be a faff to wash but given its pure silk it’s dry clean only anyway so should be fine

It's fine, honestly why are some people so stuck in the dark ages when it comes to things like this.

I wore a cream dress at my wedding, and my MIL, who made my dress, also wore cream (no pattern). I couldn't have cared less.