I need to look fabulous

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I've lost half my body weight and it so happens my ex husband will be attending the same conference as me in March. Its a big pagan thing so wear what you want
I need to look fabulous.
Has anyone seen any amazing pieces recently you can share with me. It would feel really good to put two fingers up.
I am 64 but enjoy fashion and can wear pretty much anything. My arms need to be covered and it will still be quite cold.

Blimey! There are loads of hot women in their 60’s around if you care to look. Particularly in the eyes of men of a similar generation.

Are you sure you’re on the right board as I think the worthy self improvement threads are on a different one 😂

Well, since neither of us know her we can’t know her full intention. But my moral compass is fine, thank you.

it just so happens her post says something very different

Do you have any comments on potential outfits or would you prefer to just go on being annoying?

Or are you her ex?

What about something like this top with some fake leather leggings with stiletto boots , or pencil skirt and long boots? https://www.disturbia.co.uk/products/hexborn-baba-yaga-flocked-long-sleeve-top

What makes you believe that to be true? „I need to look fabulous“ is hardly a declaration of war. Why is OP „mean“ in your opinion?

I and absolutely not getting that vibe.

But even if you‘re right: Being “mean” by looking fab is hardly a crime and seems like an incredibly harmless way of getting “revenge” (if one could even call it revenge…) on an ex. So who am I to judge?

edit: right before my Christmas break I talked to a new client of mine who was physically abused and is still getting stalked by her ex-partner.
She spent Christmas in a women’s shelter.

I wish ALL people simply reacted to breakups by wanting to look „fab“ when encountering their ex.
There would be considerably fewer abused, stalked and murdered women!

Another no for the jacket - it’s awful.

If you generally suit jackets then you can find a much nicer one than that.

"I've lost half my body weight and it so happens my ex husband will be attending ... I need to look fabulous... to put two fingers up"

I accept that MN typically is blinkered but do you really not understand the implication of that wording?

Another 1980s cliche. I do think people should wear what they want at any age, but that top on a sixty year old is all far too Cher for my liking.

This dress over the top would also work https://www.disturbia.co.uk/products/skye-shirred-back-midaxi-dress-black

I'm 65, of the slightly more Gothic persuasion and sometimes need to attend conferences and similar where I have to appear in front of people and look reasonable. I find sticking to the 'one loose garment and one well fitting' stands me in good stead. I wear a fitted shirt from M&S with wide leg black trousers from Monsoon or a floaty chiffony type top with fitted trousers and heels. Sometimes a form fitting dress with a loose jacket over the top. Heels not too high or I fall over.

Harsh .
Wanting to look your very best does not end when you get your first grey hair or wrinkle .

It’s a pagan conference. It’s the type of clothing most people there will be wearing. People will probably be into all manner of what you think of as cliches. Much better this than the ridiculous-oversized shapeless sacks which are often recommended on this area of MN. 64 year olds will absolutely be wearing this sort of thing. Maybe with a black vest top underneath

The jacket and your black jeans will work. For a top underneath the jacket, I would stick with something plain ish as the jacket itself is the statement piece.

It’s extremely understandable that you’d want to look your best in case you see your ex husband. It’s a bit weird of PP to think that’s somehow not ok!

You have had a lot of comments on outfits, so I won't comment further on this.

But,

It is how you carry the outfit off. You walk in there with a shit tonne of confidence and your head held high. Be yourself, but with an extra bit of va-va-voom. This is what will be noticed more than just the outfit you are wearing.

🌷

Well, it’s all far too Cher/Debbie McGee for my liking. And if the OP wants to stand out, she’d do better in a bit of colour and a nice, more modern looking dress. It doesn’t have to be a sack.

https://www.johnlewis.com/phase-eight-gracie-satin-pleated-midi-wrap-dress-dark-green/p112773714

your comments were just as „mean“ (if not „meaner“) imo.
And my point remains: The world would be a safer place if wanting to look fabulous was the „meanest/worst“ possible response to a breakup…

anyhow, back to the outfit. I truly dislike the jacket. And the fabric is a cheap poly blend, which will probably be obvious irl.

And if black is what everyone else is wearing… Doesn’t OP want to stand out / make a bit of an impression?

You sound positive and not hard work at all.

I’d go and look at Disturbia as a PP mentioned .
I found a gorgeous dress for my daughter there and I saw a few things I liked .
Disturbia would not be my usual style but the prints were so unusual and some of the dresses were midi with sleeves

https://www.joebrowns.co.uk/hannah-boho-velour-dress-wf374#colour=451

I'm a black leather trousers, knee high boots kinda gal myself at 60 but i'd definitely wear this...

This is gorgeous

I like the clothes from www.wickeddragon.co.uk
lots of great things and they last/wash really well.

The implication? You really are being a dick about this very natural thing.

Zaimara do some gorgeous dresses. The Angelina dress in black might work.

https://www.zaimara.com/products/angelina-dress