Could I wear this outfit to a Christmas Eve wedding?

[CathyBlowsBubbles]

Could I wear this to a late afternoon Christmas Eve wedding? Friends are getting married this year and I’ve left it very late to get an outfit. I want to look glam casual as that’s the stated vibe. DH going black tie. Plan would be matching shoes and an ivory coloured calf length faux fur coat that I already own. Concerns are that it looks inappropriate for a wedding or that it’s too light or close to bridal colours. Opinions please.

The real world. Unless the invite specifically says women can wear white, it is tacky as f for a woman to wear white, cream, off white, or even champagne.

No!

Was thinking the exact same thing! 🤣
The colour is beautiful OP but the festive red is gorgeous

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It's white, absolutely not Cathy.
Just seen update, glad you went with the red.

You are joking. Next you’ll be telling me white track suits are bridal.

This is very much my experience too. Even if the bride is completely unbothered, other guests will be offended on the bride's behalf. The offending guest will be the topic of much unflattering commentary and it will be a long lasting memory of the wedding for the guests.

I wasn't fussed but my then MILs choice of outfit is still being occasionally discussed 20 years on. Annoying for the bride that all the effort and special touches put in to the event for the guests and a guest choosing to wear a bridal colour is the lasting memory.

What is it that always seems to make people reach for the cream and ivory when it's a wedding?

Then as soon as its another event no-one bothers with it.

Are Christmas Eve weddings a thing? That would be a nightmare for me.

I would go as Father Christmas.

I guess the risk is @AliceMaforethought if the bride isn’t moving in your circles - the bride may be offended 🤷‍♀️

You wore white at your mate's wedding and her auntie put you in your place, calling it now.

TBH i think people get way caught up in the white thing. Unless you are wearing a full on wedding dress there's no way you would over shadow the bride, and if you did, you would be a laughing stock. I think the gold sequin thing is fine.

It’s lovely but in my opinion wearing solid white or ivory or solid black to a wedding is a breach of etiquette

Why don't recent posters update themselves?

OP said ages back she was getting the red version.

'Glam casual' is NOT black tie for the guys.

That means a lounge suit or a pair of smart trousers, shirt and jacket.

Black tie is formal wear, and white tie even more formal.

If he's going in full evening dress of black tie he will look over dressed.

Yes that colour would be better .the champagne nice for christmas but not a wedding brides get picky then x

Hear Hear

In reality I don’t think they have. I have found the younger ones (eg my son’s gf and his previous one) to actually be surprisingly traditional about things.

Many years ago someone loaned me a beautiful dress to wear to a wedding because I had just lost weight and didn't have anything that fit. It was a beautiful long light-champagne coloured dress. I didn't give it a moment's thought because I was just so pleased to have something to wear that was so glamorous and which would show off my new figure. It was only when I arrived that I suddenly realised that in a certain light it looked white and I looked as though I was deliberately competing with the bride. I kept getting all these compliments, some of them right in front of her and felt mortified. I don't care what the trend is these days I will never make that mistake again.

So did mine, got tipsy and made a show of herself.

I'm smiling just thinking about it.

Why would I be going to the wedding of someone not in my circle?

Honestly, I don't get why you are beating yourself up about it. People were probably complimenting your weight loss as much as the outfit. I am sure nobody thought you were the bride!
Honestly, either a wedding is so traditional that the bride will be in full regalia, train, veil etc (,,in which case a guest wearing a light colour has no chance whatsoever of being mistaken for her) OR it is unconventional and the bride probably won't even be in white anyway. This shibboleth is very much an 'only on Mumsnet and other weird corners of the internet' type thing.

Well I work in the industry and I can confirm you’re just rolling your eyes as a very small minority of one 😂

It's maybe also a London Vs the provinces thing.The last wedding I went to was in New York and the dress code was black and white.